When it comes to the love compatibility between Cancer and Virgo you must realize that the Cancer woman is not afraid of making decisions.
In fact, her decisiveness often gets the better of her. What do you call a situation where you just charge in to a deal, to a relationship, to an arrangement, or to employment, without having a clear idea of all the facts that you’re dealing with?
I’m not, of course, talking about obsessing about every single detail like a Libra, so you get stuck in analysis paralysis, but I am talking about having just enough facts that you can make a common sense and logical decision.
Unfortunately, the Cancer woman is so driven by the concept of being right, and most importantly, looking right and strong, that she is willing to barge into almost any kind of situation.
This is why it’s very common for Cancer women and in many cases Cancer men as well, to fail to live up to their fullest potential. If they are in a company, they probably will make it to middle management and go no further. If they are in class, the probably will make it to the upper quarter of the class, and not get any further.
This frustration feeds this behavior even more. They think that all they need to do to get to where they need to go is to just put more gas. Basically, push the metal to the pedal and make it happen. It’s not unusual for them to basically dig a hole.
This is a very important piece information to keep in mind when analyzing Cancer women and Virgo men love compatibility.
The woman in the relationship has no problems making a decision. The Virgo men, on the other hand, have an issue with making decisions at all. I’m not talking about waiting until you get all the facts; I said that’s going to happen.
In reality, you don’t really get all the facts. At some point in time, you have to make the decision. But, the Virgo man is such a perfectionist that he needs to make sure that everything is covered, everything is has been thought out, and that everything has been looked at, at least twice.
As you can probably tell, this is not exactly a recipe for success, both in terms of relationships, careers, business, you name it.
So, the biggest tension present in Cancer women and Virgo men love compatibility is this interplay between Virgo intuition and Cancer decisiveness.
As you can probably already tell, Cancer decisiveness is really not as much about being decisive as it is being a show or decisiveness and strength. These are two totally different things.
The Virgo, on the other hand, seems to be content about waiting for this perfect world, this perfect combination, this perfect storm that’s really not going to happen.
So, when you have this interplay, you basically have a clash of fire and ice. You have fire on the side of the Cancer, and this ice-cold reluctance to do anything on the part of the Virgo.
Am I saying that Cancer women and Virgo men love compatibility is doomed from the start?
Of course not.
Just like with most horoscope signs, these two signs can get it on and get it off very easily. Women are drawn to the Virgo man’s depth. A Virgo man can seem emotionally complicated, nuanced, and mysterious, and women love that.
The Cancer woman, on the other hand, is so decisive and impulsive that she can fall head over heels easily for that aspect of Virgo men. What I’m talking about is something besides stage one. You have to understand that a real relationship is a journey. You don’t just start and stop at the same place.
A real relationship involves growth; a real relationship involves more than just being happy. Happiness has many layers, and lovemaking happiness and contentment is just the most basic.
When it comes to physical attraction and lovemaking that’s not a problem.
The problem with Cancer women and Virgo men love compatibility is not so much getting is started, but keeping it going, and most importantly, getting to a higher level.
Cancer Women Should Give the Virgo Man Space and Time to Commit
If there was any one practical piece of advice for the Cancer woman involved with the Virgo man, it would be this: you have to give your man enough space and time for him to commit.
If you want him to put a ring on your finger, if you want him to sign on that dotted line, you really cannot expect him to make decisions the way you do.
If you are completely honest with yourself, you would agree that not all your decisions are exactly good ones. A lot of the frustrations in your life that you complain about are due to the fact of bad calls you have made in the past.
The reason for this is your tendency to just rush into things. Courage, bravery, and boldness can only go so far.
You have to use your heart and your head as well.
This is where the Virgo man can really help you, but you have to give him time. The fact that he doesn’t want to take the relationship past lovemaking or lower level love basis, doesn’t necessarily mean that he is incapable of truly loving you and helping you grow, and being in a deep, fulfilling, life-long relationship.
It doesn’t necessarily mean that. You just have to give him time to grow up, and also, you have to give yourself time to grow up.
Overcoming the Bossy Cancer Tendency
This is kind of a sore topic with many Cancer women, but it needs to be raised.
Cancer woman and Virgo man love compatibility can really fall apart when it comes to the Cancer woman’s tendency to want to call the shots.
Like it or not, men have an ago. They like to at least be perceived to be in charge. When you try to go out of your way to call the shots in your relationship, you’re stepping on many toes.
The good thing is that you’re not dealing with a vindictive Scorpio-type person, which can lead to some serious issues. This can even cause issues when it comes to Cancer and Libra love compatibility. However, the Virgo can only take so much before he leaves. It’s always a good idea to want to overcome your bossy tendency.
The good news is you only have to do one thing. The good news is you only need to listen to your partner. By listening to your partner and acting on what your partner says, you can overcome your tendency to basically take control of your relationship, and push it to where it needs to go.
The problem with Virgos being pushed is they normally rush to the exit. If you don’t want to push your Virgo man out of your relationship, you really need to keep in check your tendency to call the shots and be the boss.
If you think about it, Cancer women and Virgo men love compatibility works if both partners understand that there is no such thing as the boss of the relationship. A relationship is fifty-fifty. It’s a two-way street. I’m sure you have heard that before. It’s absolutely true. You have to both hold up your end of the relationship.
A relationship really is a third party. It’s not a question of what you want or what the other person wants, and you’re just trading wants and needs. It goes further than that. If you want a real commitment, you have to commit to that third party, which is your relationship.
This means loving the other party when you feel that the other party does not love you as much. This means sacrificing and doing other things that involve seeking other people first before you seek yourself.
The reason why I’m emphasizing this is because the Cancer woman tends to focus so much on where she needs to go. She tends to focus too much on pushing the Virgo man to make a commitment or a decision. Well, if you do get that decision, now what?
The issue is getting that person to decide in such a way that he says yes to the relationship. When people commit to the relationship and not necessarily to each other, this actually leads to something good. The reason for this is because people age. We don’t always look young and beautiful. We’re not always in our best mood and behavior. We’re not always fun and pleasant to be around.
The secret to Cancer women and Virgo men love compatibility is to put the relationship first. If you put the relationship first, if you are loyal to the relationship, and if you don’t treat your romantic bond as some sort of contractual obligation, where for you to perform the other party has to perform first, you lay the groundwork for an emotionally fulfilling love, and you are opening yourself up to very intense experiences of love.
Most importantly, you are laying the groundwork for a true partnership.
A true partnership is needed to raise children; a true partnership is needed to grow old together; a true partnership is needed to heal and push each other to become the highest developed beings we are capable of. That is the ultimate promise and reality of true love.
The good news is that Cancer women and Virgo men love compatibility has these ingredients. It just takes quite a bit of effort and awareness.
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