There are always many problems when it comes to love compatibility between Cancer women and Libra men. In my experience, most of the problems come from the personality of the Cancer woman so it is important to understand the realities of the Cancer woman personality.
A Cancer woman is a very seemingly driven woman. In many cases, the Cancer woman might give the impression that she is like a Taurus woman or a Capricorn woman. Well, do not let first impressions get the best of you.
There is a reason why the Cancer woman projects this, but she does not really have the same values as a Taurus woman or a Capricorn woman. You have to remember, the Taurus and the Capricorn are materialist signs, and the Cancer woman is an emotional sign. Cancers are emotional.
They look at the world and navigate the world in terms of emotions. To them, emotions are the currency of living in the world.
This is completely different from the typical way a Capricorn or a Taurus looks at the world. A typical Taurus or Capricorn would look at material signals and interpret that as emotional signals. They always look at material things like money, career and material security as proxies for things that really matter like emotional security and spiritual fulfillment.
Cancer women do not have that problem. Cancer women are very emotional. However, they have the impression that they are like Capricorn women and Taurus women because they seem to be goal driven, they seem to have their act together and they seem to be going places.
What happens when you mix that type of person with a Libra man?
A lot of very interesting things actually.
You have to understand that the impression of the Cancer woman going places in life and pushing forward is exactly that – an impression.
Put more specifically, they are projections. They are coping mechanisms of the Cancer woman. This, of course, works to the advantage of the Libra man and the relationship.
Here is how Cancer woman and Libra man love compatibility plays out, typically speaking.
The Stubborn Cancer Woman and Charming Libra Man
The Libra man can be very charming. Libra guys have a way with words. Libra guys can work a room. Libra guys can understand people’s emotions and, at least, get along with everybody in a very superficial way. This translates to a very easy charm. Cancer women are not immune to the charms of a Libra man.
The Cancer woman gives people the impression that she has her act together. She always seems to have the right answer. She seems to be heading in the right direction in life. She seems to have solid goals. This is a person who is on the right track. Well, the problem is, this is just the stuff that you can see.
The reason why she feels that she has to behave this way is because she is dealing with an underlying emotional insecurity. There is this sense of inadequacy. Either things are not enough or that she thinks that she is being cheated, or she feels that life is unfair. There is this roiling emotional issue underneath, and the only way that she feels that she can cope is to project the opposite.
If she feels that her life is spiraling out of control, she projects the impression that she is in full control of her life. This is the paradox, not just of the Cancer woman but of the Cancer personality in general.
The biggest conflict between a Cancer woman and a Libra man is that he cannot commit.
It is not that he is unable to commit or he does not want to commit, but he feels that it is not the right time to commit because he is still compiling more data.
Many Libra men are basically stuck in analysis paralysis. This analysis paralysis does not just involve matters of career, finances, legal issues, or academics, it also involves their relationships. They always are looking for more information, more signals from the other partner before they can fully commit.
Well, as you can probably tell, you can wait for a very long time and the answer will never come, because at the end of the day, any commitment, anything worth doing in life is a leap of faith.
Seriously. You cannot just wait for all the answers to come in, because you will be waiting forever. There is no such thing as one hundred percent certainty in life.
You have to go with your gut after you reach a certain point of data collection and just go with it, throw your whole soul into it, put all your energy into it and just take it and run.
Well, the Libra has a tough time making that leap of faith. So, he is always emotionally chasing his tail in terms of analysis. This can drive the undeveloped Cancer woman crazy.
The undeveloped Cancer woman, or the immature Cancer woman, is a person that is in full coping mode. In other words, this person is just basically projecting being goal driven, when in reality, it is not really the goals that matter as much as addressing her internal issues. A more mature Cancer woman would be more forgiving of the Libra analysis paralysis; because she knows that her goals are not really the paramount factor in her life.
She would understand that her seeming goal orientations are actually projections of her dealing with some underlying issues. She can empathize with the Libra insecurity and instead of working against him, actually give him comfort and help him grow.
Libra’s Need for More Information
At some point, the main problem with the Libra man, when it comes to Cancer woman and Libra man love compatibility, is that the need for information becomes an excuse. This is one part of the Libra personality that is never going to go away. They will always feel that they need more information. However, developed Libra people are able to make a decision.
A developed Libra man knows when to get off the fence. A mature Libra man knows when to pull the trigger. An immature Libra man uses this seemingly unquenchable need for information as an excuse to not commit.
Do Not Make Things Worse by Walling Him Off Emotionally
This is a warning for Cancer women that are not very polished emotionally.
If you want to maximize Cancer woman and Libra man love compatibility, do not do what you normally do, which is to emotionally wall off people that make you uncomfortable.
Walling off people emotionally or writing them off, basically means that you agree that the relationship is dead. You cannot be in a relationship with a closed heart. It does not work that way. The relationship can only grow if you have an open heart.
When you emotionally wall people off and you cut them off, your relationship will basically be running on fumes.
In terms of Cancer woman and Libra man love compatibility, the Cancer woman really has a lot of choice in this relationship. She can choose to wait for a Libra man or she can use the nuclear option and wall off her Libra male partner emotionally.