If you’re an Aries in a relationship with an introvert and you’re an extrovert, things can get quite rough. You might feel a bit impatient at times.
Similarly, if you are an Aries introvert and your partner is an extrovert, you might feel under a lot of pressure. You might feel that you’re being put on the spot quite a bit.
In many cases, you might feel that a lot of the things you do together as a couple benefit your partner more than you.
The good news is that relationships between introverts and extroverts work all the time.
In fact, such pairings are classic examples of the old saying, “Opposites attract.” Take some comfort in this fact.
If other introvert-extrovert matchups can work out and stand the test of time, your relationship can do the same.
Why do this matchup of opposite personalities work out?
Simply put, they feed off each other’s social energy and they can complement each other. It’s a nice little trade, actually.
Introverts get energized by the extrovert partner. Extrovert partners benefit a lot from the introspection and self-analysis of their introvert partners.
This can be a happy partnership. You can complete each other if you play your cards right. There are definitely enough factors in play to make your relationship succeed.
Unfortunately, there are certain aspects of the Aries personality that can make such pairings volatile.
At the very least, the presence of an Aries introvert or extrovert in such a pairing makes such partnerships fragile.
If you’re an Aries, here are five tips you need to keep in mind. These tips might extend the life of your introvert-extrovert relationship.
List Out the Things You Both Enjoy Doing
Pay attention to what I just said. I said “list”.
When you list something, it means you’re not just talking things out. It’s easy to forget when you just say stuff and forget to write items down.
When you list something, you’re actually sitting down and collecting your thoughts before writing something down.
You need to do this because it may not be easy to spot the things that you enjoy doing together.
You might think that your personalities are so different from each other that you have very few things you enjoy doing together.
The reality is the opposite.
In fact, if you are in a relationship, you obviously have enough things in common for the relationship to reach this point.
Make it a point to list out the things you both enjoy doing. This is a great way of learning more about each other. This also can give you greater insight into your relationship.
The introvert can be quite skittish in social settings. He/she knows that when those social batteries run out, he/she needs to escape.
This is why a lot of them look for certain spots in a social area.
Extroverts, on the other hand, love to be in the center of the action. In many cases, the spots that the extrovert prefers don’t have any exits.
It’s all about the crowd. This can produce a very volatile mix for introvert-extrovert couples.
The introvert wants to be on the margins, while the extrovert wants to be at the center of all the action.
You have to learn how to compromise. You have to identify your common social neutral ground.
These are the locations and the areas that both of you can feel comfortable in.
Learn to Feed Off Each Other’s Positive Energy
Introverts can be very, very positive. Their positive energy can actually be quite deep. Why?
This energy comes from a certain level of introspection. It is not shallow. It is not dependent on external circumstances.
This is why the extrovert should learn how to feed off that positive energy.
When the extrovert is very positive, the introvert absorbs that energy as well.
You can create a feedback mechanism where you pull each other up. Compare this with your normal interaction in a social space where you pull each other down.
Agree on a “Me Time” Schedule
This piece of advice is aimed primarily at the introvert.
Introverts need their time and space. They recharge when they’re alone. They recharge when they’re reading books or simply enjoying the moment free of other people.
As a couple, you need to set up a regular schedule where both partners can be alone.
The extrovert can use this time to hang out with his/her friends. The introvert can then curl up with a book or simply listen to music alone.
This is a very important concession in an introvert-extrovert relationship.
In fact, this tip alone can do wonders in extending the life of the relationship.
Take the Time to Truly Read Each Other’s Emotional Signals
One of the biggest problems that extroverts have is that they can easily misread other people.
Since they feed off other people’s energy, it’s not uncommon for them to only see themselves in other people. They’re not really reading the real emotional signals those people are sending out.
Instead, they only see what they want to see. I hope you can perceive why this is bad news.
You have to take the time to truly read each other’s emotional signals.
Introverts have pretty much trained themselves to communicate emotions a certain way. Extroverts might be completely blind to this.
By taking the time to really feel each other out as far as emotional signals are concerned, you can communicate better.
You have to remember that communication isn’t just accomplished with words. You can communicate with your facial expressions. You can send signals with your gestures.
Even your posture is sending out a message. Take the time to learn all these signals so you can truly communicate with each other on a deeper level.
If you are an Aries and you are in an introvert-extrovert relationship, you are in a great opportunity for personal growth.
Always remember the five tips above. They can go a long way in taking your relationship to a whole higher level.
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