Any dating advice involving Gemini women must begin with a profound recap of the Gemini personality. I’m sorry to break it to you, but you probably already know at some level or another: Gemini’s are very easy to misunderstand.
Let me repeat that again: Gemini’s are very easy to misunderstand.
If you look at the historical literature of astrological signs, few other horoscope signs get such a bad rap than Gemini.
Descriptions like two-faced, back stabber, traitor, Benedict Arnold, Judas, these are often thrown at people born under the sign of the twin.
This is completely unfair and this is completely wrong. People who accused Gemini of basically being two-faced or having two different personalities don’t understand the Gemini personality.
The reason for this deep historical misunderstanding of the Gemini persona is that people are easily taken in by Gemini charm.
In most cases, what makes Gemini people great friends and lovers is precisely what causes all the trouble. Gemini people are so charming that it’s very easy for people to just get stuck in one aspect of their personality.
For example, if you meet a Gemini and you know the person because you do certain things together, it’s easy for you to look at that person based solely on that context. It’s easy for you to judge that person’s complete personality based on that aspect of their personality.
I’m sorry to break this to you, but while you can get away with this with other horoscope signs, you’re in for a nasty surprise if you do this with the Gemini. The worst part of it all is it’s completely your fault; it’s not the Gemini’s fault.
The Gemini, just like other people are complicated creatures. They have different aspects and traits to their personality. However, some aspects are so charming that we fall into the common trap of defining Gemini’s based solely on those personality traits.
For example, if you meet a Gemini and you see that this person is kind and caring, you think that those two personality traits completely define that person.
Because if certain circumstances happen or certain challenges take place, this person can show other aspects of their personality.
These other aspects already exist. They’ve been there all along. The problem is you didn’t choose to look at them. The problem is you chose to define this person based only on a small subset of their personality traits.
Whose problem is that? Who’s at fault here?
This is why it’s really nothing short of heartbreak to see all throughout history and even today, Gemini people really being looked at with suspicion and skepticism because people are afraid to trust them.
The reality is if you make the effort to completely know a Gemini, you won’t be surprised. You won’t be caught off guard because you took the time, effort and energy to truly know the person in and out.
So when something happens and a different side of the person shows up, you already saw that side and there’s nothing to see here. It’s no big deal.
Keep these factors in mind when analyzing the two dating tips for Gemini women I outlined below.
They’re all animated by the internal dynamics of the facts regarding the Gemini personality that I’ve outlined above.
Your Charm Is Amazing
Gemini people, women included, have an amazing charm. Really.
They don’t necessarily have to stand out from the crowd. All they need to do is talk to you one to one and you would see their charm. It’s easy to get drawn to Gemini charm.
They have this childlike quality to them which translates to being very passionate, to being very curious and enjoying life and they have a high ability to enjoy life. This draws people in. This attracts people to you.
The downside is that you are so charming that it’s easy for your relationships to involve only one-way conversations. It’s easy for your discussions to basically just focus on yourself.
This is a great thing, but the problem is the conversations also tend to focus on what you’ve already agreed on. In other words, the person that you’re talking is not really learning anything new about you.
If you want your relationship to become deeper, if you want your dates to become more meaningful, make sure that your conversations are a two-way street.
Exercise that deep level of curiosity that you have and ask a lot of questions regarding your date. People are more than happy to talk about themselves. So stop talking about yourself so much and make sure that your conversations always go in both directions.
Make Sure You Show All Your Sides
If you are the typical Gemini woman, you’ve probably already experienced a situation where you had a good friend or a great lover in the past that basically felt betrayed by you. Nine times out of ten, this is not your fault.
Nine times out of ten, they just didn’t bother to truly know you. Well, if you’re trying to avoid this situation from happening again and you’re dating around right now and you want those dates to lead somewhere positive, you need to put in the effort to showing all your sides.
In other words, don’t be too quick to hide. Don’t be defensive. Don’t put on a show.
If you feel strongly about something, say it. If you’re afraid that you might turn off the person, if you’re afraid they won’t like you if you take a stand on something, too bad.
That’s their loss, not yours.
Problems in your relationship begin when you feel you have to compromise yourself. Problems begin when you feel you have to hide or put on a show or put on an act.
You’re not trying to impress anybody. You’re trying to find true love. Know the difference. That’s the whole point of going out on dates. That’s the whole point of getting into relationships.
You’re trying to find love. You can’t find it by hiding yourself and then all of a sudden, certain things happen and other aspects of your personality show up and guess what, your lover feels betrayed.
Get rid of all that unnecessary drama by not hiding. Lay your cards out on the table. Be proactive in showing all aspects of your personality.
Don’t ever think that if you do display all of your personality, they won’t like you. Guess what, if they don’t like you, then they weren’t meant for you in the first place. Try to be friends with them, but definitely cross them off on your list of potential lovers.
You’re looking for somebody you can see eye to eye with. You’re looking for somebody you can share your heart with.
Hiding or showing only a part of you plays no role in real meaningful dating.
Dating Is All About Learning More About Each Other
You have to remember this. It’s a journey of discovery. You have nothing to prove. You’re not out to impress. If people don’t like what you have to offer, forget them.
Move on because I’m sure there will be somebody there that would appreciate you for being you. What’s important here is that you live a life of integrity. What is important here is that you are true to yourself.
If you have to put on a show, put on an act, guess what, you will disappoint and frustrate people down the road and it will be a nasty breakup.
That has been the fate of Gemini in the past, Gemini now and Gemini in the future. No need to go down that road when you don’t have to.