This special report gives my top tips and advice to Pisces women looking for love. If you are looking for love as a Pisces woman you should read this report carefully. After spending more than two weeks analysing the future love prospects for Pisces this year I have some major news and important advice for you. Let’s get started.
One key thing to remember is that Pisces women are pure water people. Like any other horoscope sign involving water emotion plays a big role. Since Pisces is the symbol of the fish, there is a lot of emotions going on with people born under this sign.
This is especially true when it comes to Pisces women. With that said, these emotions are not inherently bad. Regardless of what you’ve heard, in the right measure and in the right context, emotion is not only acceptable but actually a preferred trait of the Pisces woman. It can actually help you get ahead in life if you have a high emotional intelligence.
With that said, Pisces, especially Pisces women, should not overplay their emotion card. If they do, they will eventually find themselves trapped in emotional quicksand. It is not uncommon for Pisces women to feel that they are emotional doormats.
They feel that they give and give but they get very little back. The reason for this is that they tend to be the emotional enablers of the groups that they are members of. They are the type of person that you go to for emotional support or encouragement. But, just like with anything else in life, you can only give until you feel drained.
This is especially true when it comes to emotional support. Keep the following dating tips in mind because they all revolve around this central fact of emotional giving that many Pisces women find themselves in.
Don’t Be Afraid To Be Opinionated
If you want to attract the right person, you have to stand out from the crowd. Unfortunately, many Pisces women have fallen into the habit of being the one person emotional support group of whatever group that they are a member of. You are always in the background. You are the person who is always encouraging people. You are always the person supporting people. This is all well and good, however, if you keep doing it and you stay in the background, it will be very hard for you to get noticed. Moreover, it is very easy for you to be taken advantaged of or overlooked.
From time to time, feel free to voice your emotions.
The common trap many Pisces women fall into is that they think their opinions don’t matter, or, they are afraid that people might get offended regarding their opinions so they try to stay in the background.
Instead, they encourage others and push others forward and support other people. Well, if you keep doing this, it will be very hard for you to ever get noticed. Moreover, people who are worth having relationships with, these are guys that will actually support you and build something solid with you, are looking for women with an emotional backbone. If you are afraid, constantly, of being rejected because of your opinion, you will attract guys that are plainly wrong for you. These are guys that will emotionally use you, abuse you, take you for granted, and otherwise, use you up. Who wants that?
If you want to attract the right kind of person, somebody who is emotionally balanced and can give you the things that you are missing, you need to be noticed and the key part of that is to risk rejection and stick out from time to time.
You don’t have to hog the limelight and always be opinionated and come out as bossy. However, you need to step out from time to time and stop worrying about what other people will think.
Know the Difference between Encouragement and Flattery
As mentioned above, Pisces women tend to be the people in the background that try to support everybody else. They try to give people encouragement and to stay positive and to otherwise support people on an emotional level. This is all well and good. In fact, you might even get addicted to it!
Many Pisces women have a deep emotional hole that they can’t seem to fill. So what they do is to encourage people and feed off the good vibes people have when they are encouraged. They try to encourage as many people and they stand in the middle and try to soak up some of the good emotional vibrations that other people give out. This actually can get quite addictive. There is an emotional calling and response pattern. You encourage, people feel good and they thank you, and you feel good.
The more you do this, the better you feel. Eventually, many Pisces women reach a point where they are no longer encouraging people based on facts, instead they resort to flattering people.
There is a big difference between real encouragement and flattery. Flattery is basically lying. You are playing to the positive emotional response you would get when you compliment somebody. However, the underlying basis for that compliment may not be there. It is shallow. It is empty.
People who are emotionally honest and who are emotionally mature would not like being flattered. In fact, they might find it even offensive. Real encouragement, on the other hand, is based on facts. You look at the real positive sides of what the person did and you encourage them based on those positive facts. Know the difference between these.
One of the biggest turn-offs is when a person you are trying to attract feels that you’re a liar, insincere, or you are an emotional pushover. The people that you want to attract are people that would want to respect you. The people you want to attract are people that would want to build something real with you. The last person that you want to attract is somebody who can see right through your emotional neediness and would want to exploit that for his gain.
Know That Guys Are More Afraid Of You Than You Are Of Them
If you are the typical Pisces female, you probably have a lot of self-esteem issues deep down. There is no need to hide from it. There’s no need to deny it. The truth is, Pisces women need a certain level of emotional engagement. If they don’t need it, they try to compensate for it by encouraging others more and doing more for others. Eventually, they end up finding themselves where they give and give and give, however, they don’t receive anything back. There’s always this deficit.
This deficit can really create a major hole in your self-esteem and self-worth. If you peel back enough layers through the psyche of unrefined, or undeveloped, or relatively immature Pisces, you’d see a massive emotional hole.
This emotional black hole exerts a lot of holes and it is very hungry. This is why many Pisces women have really low self-esteem. They think most guys wouldn’t want anything to do with them. They think most guys would either think they are unattractive, uninteresting, or both. The truth is, guys are more afraid of you that you are of them.
Why? You have something that they don’t have. You have the power to say NO.
Due to an accident of biology, guys are biologically programmed to find mates. Women, on the other hand, are blessed by biology to reject offers or accept offers. You must not take that power lightly.
That is the power of your beauty. Unfortunately, Pisces women with really low self-esteem living within this emotional sinkhole readily give up that power.
As a result, they end up chasing men on an emotional, if not, physical level and get very little in return. You have to always remember that guys are more afraid of you than you are of them. You have more to gain from that situation. Know this. Make it a part of your life.
Don’t always assume that the best guys are taken
As part of this emotional black hole that Pisces females find inside them, they always assume that best guys are already taken.
The truth is, you are surrounded by quality men. You just refuse to see them. There are many reasons why this is the case. The most common is you’re looking at the wrong place. The other common reason is that you have this perfect picture of the ideal mate. Since perfection doesn’t exist, everything else will feel flat in comparison.
Regardless of which approach you take, you are playing the game to lose.
You have to change your assumptions. You have to assume the best guys are available. You have to define “the best” in realistic terms. Ideally, Pisces females would look for a guy who makes several million dollars a year, looks like George Clooney, is into surfing, and brings a lot of excitement, and is absolutely crazy about them.
The reality is, the best guy could be somebody who has a job, is responsible, is fun to be with, and emotionally balanced. As an added extra, he looks decent. The sooner you get to this realization, the sooner you realize you are surrounded by the best guys.
However, if you live in a fantasy land of perfect ideals, then it will be a long time until you come across Mr. Perfect. Chances are high that he might feel he’s getting the losing end of the bargain when he hooks up with you. Remember perfect people are also looking for perfect things in return.
Romance Takes Time
If you find yourself being the emotional security blanket of your circle of friends, you have to remember that this is not necessary a bad thing. This means that you have a social circle where people trust you.
You have a social circle where you are the emotional cornerstone. Use this to your advantage. You just need to broaden your circle to include more people and you plant emotional seeds when people come to you for advice.
You plant emotional seeds when people come to you to connect. The more you do this, the more people will trust you, the more people would want to set you up with their friends. Why? Because they trust you, they know you’re a good person.
They know you have a good heart. That’s how you plant seeds into the project of meeting the right person. Eventually, you will be put together with the person that’s right for you.
Don’t Fixate on Just One Guy
This is very similar to the perfectionist issue discussed above. When you are fixated on one person, you place all your hopes of ever getting in a relationship on that person.
The problem is, you can’t control that person. That person has his own life. Chances are quite good that circumstances can intervene and you won’t be with that person. So instead of fixating on one ideal type or one specific person, open your mind to different possibilities.
Just like with the discussion about “the best guys” above, open your eyes to the possibility that you can find love almost everywhere. You have to be open-minded. The person may not have the ideal personality. The person may not even have the ideal look or financial standing.
What matters is, that person will respect you and love you, and work with you to help you grow out of that emotional black hole that you are currently living in.
The biggest hurdle for many Pisces women looking for the right guy is their own assumptions.
By moving past these assumptions and restrictive mindset, you increase the likelihood that you’ll meet the right person. Often times, you just need to put yourself in the right situation and things will take care of themselves.