Depression and anxiety are not two things that you would usually associate with a Taurus.
Judging purely from appearances, most Taurus people seem like they have the world by the tail.
They look good, they live in the right part of town, they live in big homes, they drive very attractive cars.
In many cases, they seem to live lives that most other people would want to live. It’s very easy to envy a Taurus; they seem to have everything going on for them.
Unfortunately, how things appear from the outside rarely reflects how things really are on the inside.
Taurus people, just like with the other signs of the horoscope, can be afflicted with depression and anxiety.
Nobody is immune to these two common maladies in our modern age.
If you are a Taurus person and you are grappling with depressive and anxious episodes, you might want to hold off on chemical cures.
While you should always have that as an option if given under proper professional supervision, you should also consider your internal dialogue.
You have to understand that your external world — meaning your external actions, how you appear to other people and how you do things — is actually just a reflection of your inner world.
In many cases, if you change certain things in your inner world (and I’m talking here about your expectations, mindset, and assumptions), you can go a long way in changing your external world.
This also works in reverse. If you change how you act, you also change how you feel.
Regardless of how you go about it, you need to act now so you can get a hold on your depression and anxiety. Here are some key ideas to keep in mind.
1 – Stop Comparing Yourself to Others
One of the most effective ways to feel miserable is to constantly compare yourself to others.
Why does this act of comparing produce unhappiness? Why is this guaranteed to make you feel lousy?
Very simple. We’re all good at certain things and lousy at many other things.
Even Bill Gates, one of the world’s richest men, sucks at things like sports and picking up chicks.
If he were to compare himself to Stephen Curry of the Golden State Warriors, he’ll probably feel lousy. Why?
Bill Gates probably can’t sink a three-point shot if his life depended on it.
You see how this works?
Everybody is a composite of strong points and weak points.
If you’re constantly comparing yourself to other people based on one particular point, like a career, you will always feel lousy because somebody else will always beat you at that.
Stop comparing yourself to others. As the inspirational poem “Desiderata” reminds us: “If you compare yourself with others, you may become vain and bitter; for always there will be greater and lesser persons than yourself.”
Vain, if you are superior to them; bitter, if you are inferior to them. Neither vanity nor bitterness is good.
Focus instead on comparing yourself to yourself. More on this in the item below.
2 – Compare Yourself to Your Ideal Self More Often
Instead of comparing yourself to other people, compare yourself to what you would like to become.
This is a better way to do comparisons because, instead of grinding yourself down and putting all sorts of unnecessary pressure on yourself, you actually push yourself up.
You actually motivate and inspire yourself to peak performance levels.
Instead of depressing yourself because you are bitter that other people seem to be living the life you’d like to live, push yourself forward.
Push yourself to live life to its fullest potential by comparing yourself to your ideals more often.
3 – Make Sure Your Ideals Are Realistic
It’s extremely important that if you’re going to be comparing yourself to your ideals, make sure that these ideals are realistic.
By realistic, I’m not saying that you should set the bar very low.
I’m not saying that you should compromise your standards and be very sloppy with your principles. I’m not saying that at all.
What I’m saying is that your ideals must meet your capability of making them happen.
If you want to change certain things about yourself, if you try really hard to transform yourself, your ideals must be doable.
They must be attainable.
You can’t have ideals that are completely out of this world.
For example, if your ideal is to become some sort of a modern-day Superman, that’s not going to happen.
Focus instead on something that you know you are capable of becoming as long as you apply yourself to the task. This is where other people come in.
If you look at people who come from a similar background as you and have reached the top, then you can take comfort in the fact that if they are able to do that, then you can do the same thing.
4 – Give Yourself Room To Fail
I know that most people try to run away from failure.
Given that Taurus people are typical materialists, they are deathly afraid of failure. They try to avoid failure like the plague.
But failure is actually your friend. People who have reached the highest peaks in life have often walked through several valleys.
That’s right. They have failed time and time again.
Failure is really nothing but a teacher. Don’t fear it.
Failure tells you what you need to improve on. It tells you how much farther you have to go. It also tells you what you need to sacrifice.
It’s easier to learn from failure because it’s easier to get emotionally engaged.
When you fail, it’s very painful; it’s humiliating and embarrassing.
However, that sense of emotional urgency actually works to your favor because you are more likely to remember what you did wrong.
Thus, you know what mistakes to avoid in the future.
Now compare this with success where everything feels good. You don’t completely realize that of the maybe 10 things that you did to achieve success, only one actually accounted for most of your success.
But it’s very hard to spot that one item because you succeeded. I hope you get the point here.
5 – Don’t Focus on What Others Have
Focus on your character instead. By focusing on what others have, we fall into the very common pattern of trying to steal from them.
That’s really the bottom line.
When you’re envious of somebody, you are essentially admitting that you don’t have what it takes to achieve the same results that they do.
You would rather emotionally or mentally steal their accomplishments by envying them. That’s the worst thing that you can do.
You should stop doing that. Focus instead on your character.
What do you need to change about yourself, so you can achieve the same level of success? What kind of sacrifices do you need to make to get to where you need to go?
This should be the mental framework that you are using, instead of simply focusing on other people and what they have.
If you spend a lot of time trying to play a game based on the rules of other people and based on what works for them, you are simply playing the game to lose.
6 – Learn To Appreciate What’s Going Right on a Moment-by-Moment Basis
If you’re feeling depressed and anxious, you feel that all things are going wrong in your life. You feel that you’re stuck in a rut. You feel that you don’t really have a sense of meaning.
It’s easy to feel that you’re just drifting through life.
While it’s okay to feel that way, you have to understand that that’s not all that’s going on.
If you’ll just open your eyes to the things that are going right, you’d be amazed.
In fact, you’d be so amazed that you would be grateful that you’re still alive.
For you to even read this blog post means that there are a lot of things that went right today. A plane didn’t land on you, a bus didn’t knock you over . . .
Focus on what’s going right and learn to draw happiness and contentment from the things that worked out, instead of devoting so much time and attention to things that are missing or have gone wrong.
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