It is very hard to be an Aries woman as far as love is concerned.
As you know, Aries people have no problems in making a commitment. In fact, your biggest challenge as far as many different aspects of your life is concerned, is you tend to commit too early.
It is not uncommon for Aries people to get only a few facts and make a decision on those facts. This is often a recipe for disaster.
They would often go into a situation with only half the picture in clear view and make all sorts of decisions.
This leads to a lot of misunderstandings, personal problems, and strained relationships.
It is not hard to figure out why many Aries people often find themselves stuck in the middle of any corporate organizational chart that they are a member of.
It is this impulsive drive to rush in, be the center of attention and, kick butt. Unfortunately, 9 times out of 10, the only butt that you are kicking is your own.
This is already tragic as far as your career is concerned.
This can also be particularly sad when it comes to your emotional world. If you notice that a lot of guys that you meet are backing off emotionally pretty abruptly, here are 5 reasons why.
By wrapping your mind around these reasons and making necessary changes, you will go a long way in attracting better guys.
You would also go a long way in becoming a more emotionally balanced and happier person.
– You seem to have all of the answers
People hate know-it-alls and others who have this attitude that they have to answer to everything.
Unfortunately, a lot of your need for control is rooted in you being perceived as a solid person. You define personal solidity as having all of the answers.
You might think that this is what people are looking for, but it is actually the precise opposite.
People are looking for human beings that they can relate to and have actual shortcomings that they can identify with.
If you hold yourself out as some sort of perfect person who has all the answers to all the situations, you are actually alienating a lot of people.
If you are wondering why a lot of guys who, at first, seemed eager to know more about you back off emotionally, this is one serious clue.
If you come off as a know-it-all, you might want to tone it down a bit. If you come off as somebody who seems to have all of the answers, you might want to dial that back a little bit.
Otherwise, you are going to suffer the same results over and over again.
Just as Albert Einstein said, “The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
If you are tired of guys back off emotionally, you might want to stop doing the same things over and over again.
You might want to start by stopping being perceived as a know it all.
– Your confidence is off putting
Men are drawn to confident women while real men are drawn to strong women.
With that said, it is very easy for Aries women to overplay their hand and over do it. If you are so confident, you can come off as cocky and dismissive.
None of this is attractive nor encouraging.
You have to understand that guys do not like overly confident women. It triggers all sorts of insecurities, poisons the environment, and sends off negative signals.
It is one thing to be confident, just do not over do it. Your confidence should play off his confidence.
In other words, you should make great music together instead of your confidence drowning him out.
– You are too eager about grabbing credit
One of the most fundamental Aries shortcomings is that you like to be the center of attention. Your ego is so big because, fundamentally, it is so weak that it has to grab all the credit.
Otherwise, you would feel small.
As you can probably already tell, this poisons a lot of your relationships. This also makes you emotionally toxic to most guys.
You have to understand that guys have a healthy dose of ego. Who does not? People like to be given credit if credit is due.
If you are simply too eager about grabbing credit, this makes you look very unattractive.
You may be physically attractive, but, on the emotional level, you are a no man’s land. You become a no go zone.
You might want to dial back your natural tendency to grab the spotlight and soak up all of the credit. Leave some space for that special guy in your life.
– Most guys do not like to be crowded out by your ego
This should be a no brainer. Real relationships are built on a practical living space between the 2 egos that make up that relationship.
In other words, it is a two-way street. It is not really a question of one person making the other person grow, which makes the other person grow.
It is not a question of that because that can easily become a parasitic co-dependent relationship. That is a sick relationship if you think about it hard enough.
No, instead, a real relationship is all about 2 complete people making good music together.
Unfortunately, this is all but impossible if most of that relationship space is soaked up by the oversized ego of the Aries female partner.
You tend to do this. Unfortunately, you tend to do this unconsciously that guys simply just back off.
If you notice a constant and consistent pattern of guys emotionally backing off from you time and time again, you might want to check your ego.
You would be surprised as to how big it is. You might want to dial it down unless you get knocked down a notch or two by an unfortunate event in your life.
Unfortunately, life has a way of knocking us off our pedestals.
Our heads can get so big until we get hit by a massive setback like getting fired from your job, getting kicked out of school, getting your heart crushed, or any other kind of personal disaster.
There are actually opportunities for us to develop normal sized egos.
Do not look at it as some sort of personal failing, instead, look at it as a learning experience.
– Most guys are interested in a two-way relationship
As I have mentioned earlier, real relationships are bi-directional. They go both ways.
It is not just a question of give and take, but it is a question of sharing the same values and feeling like you are in a totally engaged environment.
However, if the Aries female partner is all about controlling the relationship or partner, there is really no bi-directional flow, nor there is a two-way street.
The relationship essentially feels like a straight jacket. It becomes some sort of emotional prison.
What do people in prison want to do? They want to break out.
If you run your relationships this way, there is no surprise why most guys want to get out of there as quickly as possible.