If you’re a Gemini in a relationship, you probably are worried about your relationship. You probably have been burned in the past or let down in the past.
It’s very easy for you to let the failures of past relationships haunt your current relationships.
This really is too bad. Instead on focusing on the past and becoming a prisoner of your past romantic failures, focus on the present.
There’s a lot you can do in the here and now that will help build solid relationships.
These relationships may live up to your highest dreams. These relationships can give you the highest level of fulfillment and contentment a relationship is capable of.
It’s all about what you do.
It’s not about what you think. It’s not about what you intend. It’s not about what you meant to do.
It’s all about what you do. You have to take action today.
The good news is that this is not rocket science. The good news is that it’s all about being in tuned about who you really are.
As long as you’re honest with yourself, you will make progress.
However, if you fall into the common trap that many Gemini women and men fall into, these tips won’t help you. What trap am I talking about?
Self-delusion.
Let go of all these false pictures of who you think you are. Focus instead on who you really are.
Be more expressive
You have to remember that people aren’t mind readers. I know this might seem very obvious but many Geminis act otherwise.
They think that if somebody loves them, then that person is obligated to read their mind.
Do you realize how ridiculous that thinking is? Do you see what’s wrong with that logic?
Don’t expect people to read your minds. Be more expressive. Speak up.
You’d be surprised as to how smooth your relationships become after you decide to be more expressive.
Don’t bottle things up
This flows from the first point above. Nobody’s being helped when you bottle up all your frustrations, and then you blow up from time to time.
This is the worst thing you can do to your partner. In fact, it’s a form of lying.
They are grown up. They are adults. They can handle what you have to dish out.
Don’t bottle things up. You’re not saving the relationship by letting things fester.
In fact, you’re only ensuring that it dies a premature death.
Open lines of communication are needed. I’m sure you’ve heard that many times before.
Since you’ve heard many times before, isn’t it time that you applied it?
You’d be surprised as to how much more attentive and affectionate your love partner would be when you decide to stop bottling things up.
Choose better lovers
Geminis tend to choose the wrong person again and again. They tend to make the same mistakes over and over.
The reason for this is that they are very stubborn. They tend to stick to a common pattern.
You might think that picking the wrong lover inflicts a huge amount of emotional punishment. You would be absolutely correct.
However, there’s enough of a positive there and a sense of danger or ill-fated romance that Geminis make the same mistakes over and over again.
It’s not unusual for Geminis to be prisoners of past patterns.
For example, if a Gemini woman keeps picking the wrong kind of man, it’s because her father was also the wrong kind of man.
You have to choose better lovers.
Otherwise, you’re going to keep repeating the same negative pattern.
Don’t read too much into things
Geminis put a lot of pressure on themselves because like to be liked. They like to be appreciated.
As a result, many become overly sensitive. They become very fearful of losing that special person in their lives. They tend to read too much into things.
Not surprisingly, they tend to overreact. These two practices often lead to an explosive combination.
Don’t beat yourself up too much
It’s okay for things to go wrong. That’s what makes life a life.
We live in an imperfect world. You’re not perfect and so is your partner. You just have to let go.
If you screw up from time to time, say sorry and move on.
Don’t beat yourself up. Don’t feel too guilty. Eventually, you have to let go.
You’re not as messed up as you think. As I’ve written earlier, Geminis are often the misunderstood sign of the horoscope.
People feel betrayed by them. People feel that Geminis are backstabbers. People even feel that Geminis are chameleons.
You really don’t know who you’re dealing with.
The truth is you’re not as messed up as you think. The people who are messed up are the people that don’t get you. Why?
They fail to look at your complete personality. They fail to know you as a person.
Instead, they focus on what they think they needed to know about you and left it at that.
If you show a different part of your personality, it’s not you who’s at fault.
Maybe it’s their fault…
It’s very easy for Geminis to blame themselves. They often find themselves in emotional situations where they are cast as the bad guy.
They are often left feeling alone after saying an uncomfortable or inconvenient truth.
The reality is that people often delude themselves when they’re around you.
They think they know you, but they don’t really put in the effort to truly know you.
When something happens and different aspects of your personality come out, don’t beat yourself up too much. It’s not your fault.
Most of the time, it’s their fault. Why?
They didn’t put in the effort to truly know you.
Guilt is not a good default emotion choice
Considering the fact that many Gemini relationships tend to blow up all of a sudden, Geminis tend to walk around with a lot of guilt.
They always blame themselves for things not working out. They always think they are at fault for their relationships falling apart.
Well, whatever the reality is, don’t focus too much on guilt. Guilt can eat you up from the inside.
It’s very toxic. Let it go.
Learn to forgive yourself and aim for something better and higher next time.
Be happy in your own skin
Since Geminis are often misunderstood, one of their most common coping mechanism is to try to become somebody else.
Bad idea.
Be happy in your own skin. Accept yourself. If you don’t love yourself, how do you expect to be loved by other people?
How do you expect to love other people if you don’t respect or love yourself?
Be happy in your own skin. You are imperfect.
Work on the things that you can work on and just accept the things that you can’t work on.
Remember that you’re responsible for your own happiness
Happiness doesn’t come from outside. Happiness is not this gift wrapped package that somebody puts in your lap.
It’s not something you work towards. It’s just something that happens within.
Focus on what makes you happy. Focus on living in the moment.
This is the key.
If you always look at happiness as some sort of external force, you will always be unhappy.
In your relationship, focus on what unites you together.
Focus on the things that you work towards together.
This is what’s going to pull you through. This is what’s going to help the relationship survive from the many Gemini emotional earthquakes that tend to happen.
Learn to establish a common emotional communication channel
Geminis are misunderstood because they are often bad communicators.
Make sure you come to an agreement early on as to how you both communicate your emotions.
Once the rules are set and you play by the rules, things will be smooth. That’s how it works.
As a result, the non-Gemini partner will get fewer unpleasant surprises.
Contents
- Be more expressive
- Don’t bottle things up
- Choose better lovers
- Don’t read too much into things
- Don’t beat yourself up too much
- Maybe it’s their fault…
- Guilt is not a good default emotion choice
- Be happy in your own skin
- Remember that you’re responsible for your own happiness
- Learn to focus on shared values
- Learn to establish a common emotional communication channel
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