Before we begin discussing the impact your jealousy has on your love life, it is worth defining what jealousy truly is.
Jealousy is one of those words that are repeated so often that people have forgotten what it truly means.
Jealousy is all about feeling upset because somebody is getting what you rightfully deserve.
It all boils down to whether you have a right to feel jealous or not.
The core of the analysis centers on who has the right to the thing you are jealous of.
For example, if somebody is jealous of you having a nice car, they have no right no feel jealous.
Why? You own that car. It is not like they own the car and you are using it.
However, if your girlfriend is feeling jealous because you are flirting with another female, then she has a right to be jealous.
Why? To be in a relationship, you have to commit to each other.
A key part of that commitment is emotional exclusivity.
This means you promise that your affections or attention would be directed only to her. If you do not direct it to her or somebody competes for your attention and gets it, she has the right to be jealous.
By virtue of her being in a relationship with you, she has the right to expect you to be exclusive to her.
Jealousy is a matter of exercising one’s rights, but it must be properly justified. In other words, you have to have the right to be jealous.
I need to get that out of the way because a lot of people misuse the word jealousy. They often confuse it with envy or coveting.
Those are totally different emotions, totally different situations and totally different contexts.
If you are a Pisces woman or man, it is very easy for you to get jealous. It really is. Why?
You map the world based on emotions. You look at interpersonal relationships and your place in the world based on this large emotional map.
You look at people’s value based on what they bring to the table emotionally.
Emotions play a big role in your life. This is how you know you are being true to yourself. This is how you know you are being true to other people.
You Have Very High Expectations of Emotional Authenticity and Honesty
This is going to be a problem if you are in a relationship because nine times out of ten, the person that you are in a relationship with does not share the same level of emotional intensity.
Of course, the only exception is the Scorpio.
With the Scorpio, you see eye to eye as far as emotional intensity is concerned, but for the rest of the houses of the horoscope, this is going to be an issue, especially if you are in a relationship with somebody born under an earth sign.
If you are dealing with a Virgo, a Capricorn or a Taurus, there are bound to be misunderstandings.
It is very easy for you to become jealous. They might feel that nothing is truly going on because they are not really going out on a limb, emotionally speaking, with somebody, but in your mind they are cheating on you.
In your mind, they are being emotionally unfaithful.
It is very easy for jealousy to ruin your relationships because it prevents you from sticking around long enough for the relationship to truly take root.
Is this just a one-sided thing? Is this just an issue only you have to resolve?
This seems kind of like a lonely project if you are the only person who has to change in your relationship.
Unfortunately, that is absolutely true because your emotional intensity can throw whatever romantic engagement you may be involved in off track.
It really can. It is very easy for you to read too much into a particular situation.
Maybe your partner is just flirting with somebody. Most Americans have no problems with flirting.
In other cultures, it is an issue, but in our culture it happens all the time. In fact, in many situations it is perfectly accepted.
Some people actually view it as an insult not to flirt back. They might think there is something wrong with you if you do not read the signals that they are sending and reciprocate.
I know this is hard to accept, but this is the fact and you have to really dial down your emotional intensity as far as your jealousy is concerned.
Stop Reading Too Much Into Your Partner’s Actions
Sure you do have a right for emotional exclusivity.
However, you cannot read too much into your partner’s actions. You cannot impose an impossible standard on your partner.
Otherwise, it can easily blow up in your face. Otherwise, you are simply pushing them out of the door.
This happens quite a bit actually. Pisces people worry themselves ragged taking up all sorts of extreme scenarios when in reality, something perfectly innocent is happening.
It is a very toxic combination between your tendency towards jealousy and your tendency to read too much into situations. You tend to assume the worst.
You really have to work on this and the best way to do this is to have open lines of communication with your partner.
Constantly ask them what you mean by that or what do these actions mean. They can set you on the right path.
In many cases, it takes the Pisces several relationships and several episodes of getting their heart broken to finally get the point.
I hope you do not have to learn the hard way. It is definitely the roughest way to learn, but a breakup and emotional torment are definitely the worst ways to learn.
Unfortunately, this is one lesson you need to understand.
Either you are going to have to overcome your jealousy through a breakup or through a more pleasant experience like communicating openly with your partner.
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