When it comes to marriage, most Taurus signs really have to face a moment of truth. There are few decisions in our lives that are as substantial as marriage, seriously.
You have to understand that when you marry somebody, at least theoretically, you are committing yourself to be with that person for the rest of your life. This is a lifelong commitment. It doesn’t matter whether you go through riches together, or you go through poverty together.
You still have to stay together. It doesn’t matter whether the person is in great health until the end of his or her life, or goes through a long period of sickness. This is one of the most important decisions people will ever make.
The problem with modern marriage, at least in the United States, is that it’s very easy to look at marriage in terms of contractual relationships. Just like with any contract, you think that you are only going to do your end of the bargain if the other contracting party does his or her end of the bargain.
In other words, your role in the agreement is purely reactive. If the other person gives, you give. If the other person takes, you take. Unfortunately, that is not the way to live in a marriage. A marriage is the ultimate form of relationship. A marriage, in fact, has its own life. If you are going to be serious about it, that is apart from your own life.
For example, married people who are able to care for each other despite the ravages of cancer are only able to do that because they serve the relationship, not necessarily the other partner. In fact, it’s not uncommon for married people to stay married and still stay loving even if the romance has evaporated. In my experience I have seen this many times in marriages involving Taurus and Capricorn signs. That is the ultimate test of a marriage that lasts for life.
This is a tall order. It’s not something to be taken lightly. It’s not something that you get into because the person presiding over your marriage basically said some magic words, and all of sudden, your married. Marriage really is a symbol that you both reached a certain maturity level and a certain place in your lives where you can make the ultimate commitment.
Let me make it clear. Marriage is a decision in your life, and a commitment that you get into when you are ready to start living for yourself and start living for somebody else. I cannot emphasize that enough.
In many cases, the old joke that your life ends when you get married is true, in a very positive way. If you have had a tough time living or sacrificing for other people, and you’ve always been living for yourself, marriage would be precisely the kind of challenge that would take you to a personally higher level.
Let me make this clear: the whole project of life is to develop a character that is profoundly different from the character that we are born with. We are born profoundly selfish. We are born with a mindset that the world revolves around us, our needs, and what we want.
When we become very polished, developed, and mature people, we start living for ideals and other people. I’m not talking about living for ideals like an Aquarius does; I’m not talking about weighing ideas in your head like a Libra does. I’m talking about going from a self-seeking or self-absorbed organism to an others-seeking organism.
That is the differentiation between a relationship that remains at a purely primal and basic level, and a relationship that has attained a higher, almost spiritual level.
Make no mistake about it. The body can age and get ugly with time. That’s just the way of all flesh. However, when you are in a marriage that is built on solid fundamentals, you help push each other to a higher spiritual plane. That is the end goal of real human relationships–to make each other live up to our fullest potential.
Our fullest potential is not focusing on material. Our fullest potential is not to define emotions in terms of materialist terms. Unfortunately, some signs of the horoscope, like the Taurus, tend to do that. And this is the profound issue at play when analyzing Taurus and marriage.
Taurus Need Everything to Look Good
It’s not uncommon for Taurus men and women to stay in a relationship as long as it looks good. The love may be gone, the emotional fulfillment might have been nonexistent, but it doesn’t matter. It makes them look good. It’s the prim and proper kind of good. It gives them social status. It gives them social credibility and authority.
In other words, it’s a sham marriage, but tell that to the Taurus woman. In her mind, it’s a great marriage because she’s married to the right person, with the right title, with the right last name, in the right part of town, and in the right society pages.
This need for everything to look good is obviously not a foundation for a solid, fulfilling, and meaningful relationship. However, it takes two to tango. Usually, the partner that is more than willing to put up appearances with the Taurus, due to a variety of reasons, can’t put up with this.
It’s not uncommon for a Taurus to marry a cheating partner and still stay in the marriage. The other partner can even live somewhere else with another family, and it will be perfectly fine with the Taurus. Why? It looks good. It’s the way that society, in the Taurus mind, should deem a proper marriage for a certain social class.
This obviously makes a mockery of marriage and relationships in general. Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon for the Taurus to fall into this trap.
Taurus Desires Stability and Security
Probably the reason why it’s not hard for Taurus people to find themselves in loveless and sham marriages is because they tend to focus on materialist components of marriages. In other words, they tend to look at the house, the two cars, the nice address, the solid net worth, and the great retirement investments as proxies for emotional commitment and emotional health.
It’s not uncommon for the Taurus to live in this fantasy land where everything is okay, but essentially, the relationship is emotionally dead. The Taurus is more than happy for this, because the Taurus desire for stability and security often has a tough time maturing past material bases.
The Danger of Defining Ms. or Mr. Right in Materialistic Terms
As I have mentioned consistently, the problem with earth signs is that they often don’t look at the signs separating materialist from materialistic. As I keep repeating, there’s nothing wrong with being a materialist. However, being materialistic can lead to unhappiness. They are two totally different things.
Unfortunately, the Taurus can easily go past that line and be completely clueless about it. When it comes to Taurus and marriage, this is the fundamental challenge.
The Taurus has to understand that real relationships have to have a solid and deeply meaningful emotional and spiritual core. Otherwise, it’s not much of a marriage at all. This is the fundamental challenge when it comes to Taurus and marriage.