If you are an Aquarius woman and you are trying to weigh different dating options, you need to avoid common traps.
In fact, a lot of these traps are unconsciously set up by one person. That person spells her name this way: Y-O-U.
That is right. Your expectations and assumptions get the best of you and they prevent you from having a great date.
If anything, they often steal whatever joy you have regarding your dating prospects and replace it with anxiety and frustration.
If you are tired of repeating the same old negative pattern with your dates, you need to be more forgiving.
You need to look at your dates for who they are and only consider the date a non-starter or a failure if you see the following deal breakers.
Otherwise, you are just going to lay the foundation for you dying lonely.
I do not mean to sound harsh. I do not mean to get you down, but that is the reality.
We can easily become the victims of our own high expectations and we end up filtering everybody out.
That is the last thing you want to do when it comes to dating.
There has to be a lot of leeway there. Of course, there are a lot of risks because once you relax your rigid standards, some losers might slip through.
However, that is the risk you need to take if you want to increase your chances of finding real love.
Here are eight dating deal breakers you need to keep an eye out for.
You Only Agree to Date Him Because the Right Person Referred Him
Aquarius people tend to make decisions based on referrals.
In other words, they tend to look at the status of the person doing the referring and carry it over to the person being referred.
This is a serious problem and could create an unhappy relationship because these are two totally different people.
Do not agree to date a guy just because you have a high degree of respect for the person referring him.
Instead, ask a lot of questions regarding the guy being referred. The focus here is on your date, not the person referring him.
If you are able to wrap your mind around this and make sense of it, then you would make quite a bit of progress in your dating life.
Otherwise, you are doomed to repeat the same pattern of going out on dates with turkeys.
You Did Not Talk to Him Before Agreeing to a Date
Assuming that you let go of the power of referral when looking for dates, the next step is to actually talk to the guy.
Filter the guy before you go out on a date with him. This is a great way for you to save a lot of time and emotional energy.
Make no mistake about it.
If you are going on a date, you have a certain degree of expectations. You have a lot of assumptions.
This can take an emotional toll. You might think that you only need to reject the date, but in reality you already played a steep rise.
Avoid all that unnecessary drama by going the extra mile and simply talking to the guy before you agree to a date.
You would be surprised as to what you will find out and this can help you cut your losses early on. Consider this in 2016 Aquarius when it comes to love.
You Didn’t Ask for a Picture Before Agreeing to Talk
Unfortunately, as much as people tell us not to judge a book by its cover, we have to judge a book by its cover, seriously. Why?
Outer worlds are reflections of our inner world.
If you look like a bum, chances are you think, feel and look at the world like a bum.
If you look like a winner, chances are you think, look and feel like a winner.
Your internal decision processes impact your external choices. I know this is not always 100% true, but there is a high correlation.
This is all we have got, so when it comes to first dates, you might want to pay attention to appearances.
You are not looking for somebody who looks drop dead gorgeous. We are not talking about some sort of magical mysterious search for the next George Clooney or Brad Pitt, because your soul mate isn’t meant to be perfect.
I am not talking about that.
What I am talking about is whether you are dealing with somebody that is responsible enough or is level headed enough to at least have decent hygiene and a decent appearance.
You Set Aside Your Standards
Never ever compromise your standards.
Seriously, if you have standards, stick by them.
The reason why a lot of Aquarius women find themselves in lousy relationships is because they compromise on their standards.
This eats them up because they are emotional purists and emotional idealists.
Eventually it eats them up so much that they start looking for weaknesses. They start blaming the guy and all sorts of unnecessary drama pops up.
To avoid all that hassle, make sure that your standards are minimal.
I am talking about minimum acceptable standards.
What this means is that you are not reducing your standards, but you are setting the bar at a realistic level.
Ideally we would all love to meet a person of the opposite gender that has a lot of money, is well educated, knows how to treat us well, and a very emotionally balanced and a very good person.
That is not going to happen.
Perfection only exists in our fantasies. You need to create a realistic profile that is based in the on the world as it exists.
With that said, once you have established those standards, you must not step away from them.
You Agreed to the Date Because You are Settling
This is the worst reason to go on a date.
You know that this guy is below standard. You know that this guy is probably going to be trouble. You know that this guy does not meet your requirements as far as physical appearances go.
Still, you go out on a date because you know you are settling. That is a bad move.
Never settle.
Why? Emotionally, you will be kicking yourself.
The guy might turn out to be a good guy, but emotionally you are poisoning whatever relationship you will start with him because you started off on a bad foot.
You compromise with yourself and your subconscious will keep reminding you of this until your conscious mind start poking holes in this guy.
It can lead to a slippery slope. It usually does not end well. Do not agree to date because you are settling.
You Agree to the Date Because You are Afraid There is No One Left
Desperation often leads to disaster. It really does.
Whenever you feel that you have to pick somebody because you are afraid that there is nobody left, you are setting yourself up for failure.
You are obviously setting aside your standards. You are obviously settling and this combination of factors can only blow up in your face.
Never get that desperate.
You have to remember that you are the prize here. You are the treasure.
There are more men than women when it comes to dating. You are in control of the market. Just act like it.
You Were Driven by Fear of Being Alone
I know nobody wants to die alone. I know everybody would like to be surrounded by loved ones when they are on their death bed.
I get that, but the problem is you should not let the fear of dying alone drive your dating decisions.
Why? It is very easy to get desperate. It is very easy to pick the wrong guy.
It is very easy to pick people that will actually not only use you but abuse you. Do not allow yourself to be driven by fear.
You Agree to Date Him Because You are Trying to Impress Your Friends
This is just as lousy as being driven by fear or desperation.
If you are going out with somebody that you normally would not want to deal with because you think he makes you look good, there is something wrong with your values.
You have to remember that your emotional life should not have any bearing with your social status.
Your emotional life is so precious because it can poison or enrich the rest of your persona.
Take good care of it. Do not let peer pressure or social status issues dictate your dating decisions.
Contents
- You Only Agree to Date Him Because the Right Person Referred Him
- You Did Not Talk to Him Before Agreeing to a Date
- You Didn’t Ask for a Picture Before Agreeing to Talk
- You Set Aside Your Standards
- You Agreed to the Date Because You are Settling
- You Agree to the Date Because You are Afraid There is No One Left
- You Were Driven by Fear of Being Alone
- You Agree to Date Him Because You are Trying to Impress Your Friends
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