If you’re an Aquarius man or woman, you live in an emotional la-la land. There’s really no other way to say it.
I wish I can sugarcoat it. I wish I can use euphemisms. But I probably wouldn’t be doing you much favor if I do that.
The truth does set people free. Unfortunately, the truth often hurts. In many cases, people are often upset before they let the truth free them.
Well, the truth about the Aquarius mindset is that you believe in emotional ideals.
You believe in an emotional fairy tale land that you wish is true. You tend to enter into relationships based on these ideals, and you often get hurt.
You often enter relationships and you end up settling. Why?
You keep waiting for this other person to change. You keep waiting for this other person to come around.
Unfortunately, they’re not going to come around because you live in an emotional fairy tale land.
You owe it to yourself to get all these romantic ideals and pipe dreams out of your mind.
Instead, deal with the world the way it is. While it may be nice to live in a world the way it should be, we are left with just one world.
We are left with a world that exists based on its own rules and operates based on its own agenda.
The sooner you get the memo on this, the sooner you will become happy in your relationships.
Unfortunately, Aquarius people, especially women, fall into relationships where the other person just settled for them.
Don’t get me wrong. You might be a great-looking person.
You might have a lot to offer. You might be as smart as a whip. But none of that really matters.
What matters is that this person you’re in a relationship with isn’t seeing the relationship the same way you do.
Maybe he/she is just using you for lovemaking. Maybe this person just needs somebody else to pay the bills.
Whatever the reason is, this person is just not that into you.
However, just like a desperate puppy dog, you hang on to the relationship.
You have all these idealized pictures in your mind of how emotionally fulfilling your relationship is.
You end up in a situation where you are doing most of the heavy lifting in the relationship.
You carry the relationship. You give of yourself. You sacrifice.
You go out of your way to take care of the emotional needs of your partner. What do you get in return?
I know this is hard to understand. I know this is hard to accept. But you have to call a spade a spade.
You have to look a problem in the eye before you can solve it.
The problem is that this person is just not that into you. This person wishes to be with somebody else. How do you deal with this situation?
Stop Believing in Emotional Fairy Tales
Your first step to recovery is to stop believing in emotional fairy tales. Prince Charming doesn’t exist.
That knight in shining armor, he’s dead. He’s a product of the past. He’s a product of the imagination.
You live in the real world. If you want to be heard, you have to speak up. If you want to be addressed, you have to insist on it.
In other words, you need to put your foot down.
You have to tell your partner that you expect certain things in return in this relationship.
If you’re not getting that, you need to let him/her know.
Otherwise, you will end up assuming a very familiar position. You know exactly what I’m talking about.
You will end up being treated like an emotional doormat.
This happens to you again and again. Why?
You keep imagining your romantic partners as people that they’re not. You try to read in all sorts of meanings when the reality of the person you are looking at doesn’t support those conclusions.
This is the common trap many Aquarius people fall into again and again.
The good news is you’re caught in a prison where you hold the key in your hand.
It really is that simple. You are in an emotional and mental prison, and you hold the key.
How do you recognize the key? Very simple.
Understand that you’re in control of your ideals. Understand that your mindset impacts how you view people.
Understand that your personal judgment of the neutral stimuli the world is sending you impacts your emotional triggers.
When you change judgments, when you read in different narratives into what’s going on in your life, you get different results.
How does this work? Again, very simple.
It All Boils Down to How You Respond
The world is always sending you information. We collect information with our eyes, ears, nose, legs, skin, and tongue. All our five senses are pumping us with information.
This information is neutral. Even the vision of a building burning down and people jumping off the building is neutral.
It’s how you respond to the stimuli that can make it a positive or negative thing.
Imagine looking out into the parking lot and seeing a car slam into the back of your car. You really have two choices at that point in time.
You can freak out and run around like a chicken with its head cut off. That’s probably not going to do much.
Alternatively, you can calmly take out your mobile phone and call your insurance agent.
Which approach would lead to a happier resolution? I’m telling you right now. It’s not running around like an angry chicken.
Do you see my point?
It’s the judgments that you put on the mental pictures that come to your mind. It’s the judgments you arrive at that impact your life that matter.
When you make a judgment, there is an emotional trigger. When you’re emotionally engaged, you tend to do certain things.
When you take certain actions, these impact your personal reality. That’s how it works.
It’s a chain reaction. When you take control of the chain reaction by choosing your judgments and choosing how you interpret these neutral stimuli, you can go a long way in living the life you deserve to live.
At the very least, you go a long way in getting the kind of relationships that you deserve. You owe it to yourself.
If somebody is just not into you, stop imagining fairy tales.
Look reality in the eye, and respond accordingly.
You’re not doing yourself any favors by acting like an emotional martyr.