The Cancer man is one of the most interesting signs in the horoscope. He really is.
The reason why I find him so fascinating is because there is a lot of irony to his personality. The Cancer man, to put it bluntly, is a study in contrast.
As much as we’d love to believe in the whole concept of what you see is what you get, life normally doesn’t work that way.
In many cases, things that you expect don’t pan out.
A lot of the things that you thought will happen don’t happen.
On the flip-side, things that you never expected occur. You are pleasantly surprised.
In many cases, what makes life worth living and so enjoyable is not the things that we can control, or things that we can plan.
The great thing about life is that it happens so spontaneously, and we end up doing many different things.
We end up in unexpected situations. We often end up overcoming unexpected challenges and finding happiness.
If this all sound familiar, I just described the adventure of life.
This should be the attitude of people towards the Cancer man.
Unfortunately, it’s very easy to look at the Cancer man very negatively and dismiss the Cancer man as either self-deluded or a liar.
This doesn’t do any justice to the Cancer man because they’re neither. They are just real people like you and me.
They’re complicated that can’t really be put neatly into boxes.
Unfortunately, too many people try and not surprisingly, these people totally misunderstand the Cancer man.
The Cancer man has a lot to offer. You just have to understand how his personality works.
Here’s the definitive guide to the Cancer man.
Cancer man and love
Cancer men like to look tough outside. Just as a crab has a tough outer shell, Cancer men can look intimidating.
In many cases, they might look like they have it all together. They might even look like they’re not very compassionate or good at empathy.
Don’t let all that outside appearances fool you.
In many cases, Cancer men are the most sensitive people in the room.
If you peel away that hard exterior and take off that emotional armor, deep down, you can have a quivering mass of jelly.
It can get quite messy, very dramatic, and quite explosive. That’s what you’re dealing with when you’re looking at the Cancer man.
This is crucial to understanding how Cancer men fall in love and stay in love.
Cancer men are operating from a deep and profound sense of weakness.
This doesn’t necessarily mean that they are truly weak. What this does mean is that they feel they have this hole in their lives that they’re trying to fill and complete.
They’re trying to restore some aspect of their lives.
However, they play this game with the rest of the world that they don’t want the rest of the world to know.
So they put on a show. They look very driven, tough, and confident.
This is all well and good but when it comes to love, this can be a serious problem.
If you’re a Cancer man, it’s okay to show your weakness, open up, and tell people you’re interested in about things that may not be completely positive.
This is not a sales job. It’s about you attracting the right person that will help complete you.
Do you see where this is headed and the importance of this project?
Unfortunately, too many Cancer men are scared of their weaknesses.
As a result, they put on a good show and predictably enough, a lot of their relationships fall apart. Why?
If you fall in love with somebody who is misrepresenting or acting, you would be very disappointed, to say the least, when you see the truth.
Cancer men often feel frustrated about their love lives and often throw up their hands up in the air and say, “What did I do wrong?”
Well, you know what you did wrong. Love has to be based on truth and telling it the way it is.
There’s nothing wrong with weakness. As long as you’re emotionally authentic, things will work out.
Cancer men and relationships
As I’ve mentioned earlier, it’s very easy for Cancer men to put on a show and really be hypocritical.
They can build relationships that are based on lies.
Of course, this is not malicious. They don’t set out to do things this way.
However, they are so insecure that they would rather tell half the truth than the whole thing. Why?
They’re afraid of a person they care about walking away. They really can’t handle the fact that most people are mature.
They can’t understand the idea that most people can handle bad news or negative information.
Many Cancer men take it upon themselves to paint a really rosy or conventional picture of their lives when that is far from the case.
Many of their relationships tend to fall part because the other partner feels that their relationship was built on a lie.
If you want your relationships to be more productive, you need to place a higher importance on emotional honesty and authenticity.
This is very interesting because a lot of Cancer men play a good game.
They make a big deal about emotional authenticity. They make very big demands that people be real with them.
However, when it comes to their part, they are very comfortable with holding back.
What’s wrong with this picture? I hope you can see what’s wrong with this situation because if you don’t, you only have yourself to blame.
Cancer men and friendships
Cancer men make easy friends. They are very emotional creatures, but they don’t show it.
As a result, they’re very good emotional readers of people.
They can read your emotions, map you out emotionally, and then send you signals that you want.
Not surprisingly, it’s easy for them to build a lot of friendships. After all, emotions are what make human beings human.
It’s the common tie that binds all of humanity. Anybody with a deep and profound understanding of emotions and how they work has a big advantage.
Cancer men have this advantage. This is why it’s very easy for them to make friends and to become popular.
The downside is that they can’t, for the most part, be deep friends.
You know what a deep friend is. A deep friend is somebody you can share everything with.
This is a friend that you can bet won’t judge you. This is a person that won’t turn around and stab you in the back emotionally, financially, or career wise.
The problem with the Cancer man is he tends to hold back and often try to repackage the truth.
This is really too bad because Cancer men are charming and worth being friends with. They are worth it.
The problem is they don’t feel that they are worth it so they have to try to repackage the truth. This often ends up in disaster.
If you feel this need, you might want to hold off and reconsider your plans.
Instead, focus on fully accepting yourself.
Focus on the fact that there is really no point in trying to be perfect or at least be perceived as perfect.
Cancer men and lovemaking
Cancer guys are very emotional guys.
They know what they want and how to express themselves emotionally. They can make for great bed partners.
We’re not just talking about that kind of mechanical physical intercourse. Physicality is just one tiny fraction of the whole lovemaking act.
Great action in bed is all about engagement on many different levels.
We’re talking about being physically engaged, emotionally engaged, and mentally engaged.
It’s all about living in the moment and expressing yourself with your body. It makes for an amazing atmosphere that feeds into all the different levels of your being.
It can really make you feel complete, healed, restored, and energized.
It’s not just a question of having the hairs in your back stand up or your toes curling. I mean, those are all good.
Ejaculating several times—that’s great. A woman coming at least three to five times is awesome, but it’s more than that. It’s more than the physicality.
It’s about feeling united, and you are part of something bigger and more profound than yourself.
In other words, it’s like entering into a communion that really takes you away from reality and life itself and exposes you to a larger reality.
If this seems all metaphysical to you, I feel sorry for you because that’s what a real lovemaking should be.
Lovemaking is a gateway. It’s a tool to higher levels of human consciousness and being.
It’s not just something you do because you have a physical drive. It’s not like going to the bathroom or eating.
There is a physical component to be sure, but it plugs into higher aspects of the human experience.
The Cancer man has the gift of that strong emotional focus. However, it’s a negative focus because they are very insecure.
If you’re able to overcome this sense of inadequacy and a sense of lack of completion, lovemaking can really be great.
Lovemaking can actually give you what you’re looking for. You’re looking for that sense of total appreciation and the sense of total completion and unity.
Lovemaking can be that gateway.
It’s all about the signals you’re sending to your partner, emotional honesty, and building a real two-way conversation with your partner.
Cancer man and career
Cancer men have no problems establishing great careers. They can get promoted really quickly. They can do well.
The problem is how far they go is dictated by how insecure they are.
Insecurity can be a great thing for Cancer men, and it can crush them. It’s like a black-and-white situation.
I don’t like framing things in black and white. Life is of course not binary. Life is not black and white.
Life has thousands of colors. There are millions of hues out there. It’s quite black and white for Cancer men.
There are really two types of Cancer men when it comes to careers. There are guys who let their insecurities and feelings of inadequacy crush them and limit them.
There are also guys who let these fears push them harder.
The reason why these guys tend to succeed is because they always keep telling themselves “It’s not enough.”
It’s not uncommon for Cancer men to get promoted to vice president and say to himself, “This is not enough.” He then becomes a president, and he keeps saying, “This is not enough.”
He then becomes a chairman and guess what? He’ll say, “That’s not enough.” He would then get recruited to another larger corporation as a vice president, and the process repeats itself again and again.
There is an obvious advantage to thinking this way.
By holding yourself up to ridiculously high standards, eventually, you would put in the work to meet those standards.
The problem is you might be paying a very high price. You might be paying life enjoyment. That is a very high price.
Life is supposed to be enjoyed in the moment. I’m not saying that you should be a bum, be lazy, or lack ambition. I’m not saying that at all.
What I’m saying is that there should be a point for you trying to reach higher and higher levels.
You should at least enjoy the journey. Do you understand me?
If you’re trying to get up to the peak of a mountain, do yourself a favor and at least from time to time look around and enjoy the great view as you make your way up to the mountain.
Otherwise, you would end up at the top of the mountain really old, really tired and regretful.
The last thing you want is to build a solid career and be regretful of the years you wasted being away from your family.
You don’t want to think of what could have been if you took better care of your spirit, your emotions, and your relationships.
Cancer men and money
Cancer men like the finer things in life. They don’t have any problems spending big money on a very nice car, nice suits, or nice clothing.
The interesting thing about the Cancer men is that they look at money as emotional goods or some sort of gateway to greater emotional fulfillment.
The reality is that money can buy happiness.
I know you’re probably shocked and staring at the screen really hard right now, but let me explain.
Money can buy happiness if you buy experiences. That’s right.
Let’s do this exercise. Close your eyes and think back to happy memories.
Chances are you were in a trip somewhere or at a school setting. Whatever positive memory that was, you were paying to have that experience.
You can have the experience as hanging out with friends but there are also experiences where you’re in a journey somewhere, and you had to pay to be on that journey.
This is why it makes a lot of sense to pay money to put yourself in situations where good memories can be created.
Money cannot buy happiness if you buy things. If you buy a Mercedes, nine times out of ten, after a few months, it’s no longer making you feel happy.
It’s no longer plugging the deep emotional hole in your heart.
You would want something bigger and better. That’s how it works.
That’s why products never fill our hearts. So you have to understand how this works.
This way, you would spend less money emotionally.
It’s okay to spend money. Just don’t spend it emotionally.
Cancer men and family
Cancer men make for great fathers. They really do.
They are there for their children. They put in the time at work.
They put in all the effort but when it comes to their children and their family, they make it a point to be there. They might not be there 100% or all the time, but they will be there.
Moreover, they put on a really high degree of authority. This way, kids can get a proper role model and proper guidance.
Sometimes they do tend to go overboard and become too strict or too rigid.
However, on the whole, Cancer men make for great fathers.
My final thoughts on the Cancer men
The Cancer man’s big project is really to look within. When you look within and you are at peace within, the world will open up to you.
You are driven, ambitious, and talented enough. Don’t let anybody tell you otherwise.
You have what it takes to succeed and be happy.
However, you have to look within.
You have to confront those fears straight in the eye. Otherwise, nothing is going to be possible with you.
Eventually, all the ghosts that you keep believing in on an emotional level will keep haunting your life, and you won’t make any progress.
Life is worth more than that. Life is more valuable than that. Living life that way is no life at all.
You owe it yourself to live a better life. Start looking within.