Let me get this out of the way right now. There’s nothing wrong with desiring the approval of other people.
Human beings, after all, are social animals.
We live in a social world. We view and navigate the world based on social relationships and social approval.
This is hardwired into human nature.
It’s easy to see why this is the case. If you didn’t look to play to the crowd or to meet societal expectations, chances are you would be alone.
When you’re alone, your chances of survival in the wild would drop dramatically.
There’s always a need for group support. There’s always a need for group interaction.
Unfortunately, if you go overboard and you allow your need for approval to take over, it can lead to very negative consequences.
Capricorn people are a unique mix of two distinct impulses. We’ve all heard of the classic Capricorn.
The Capricorn, of course, is based on the sign of the goat.
However, if you study the ancient sign of the Capricorn, you would notice that it’s not a pure goat.
The upper portion of this mythical creature is a goat. But the bottom portion is that of a fish.
We’re talking about a weird mix between material concerns and emotional sustenance.
Capricorns who feel an overwhelming need for the approval of third parties often have a strong fish feature in their life.
The fish portion of their horoscope sign has taken over them. This can lead to all sorts of problems.
Here are three signs your need for approval is sabotaging your love life.
You Feel You’re the Only One Giving
It’s perfectly understandable for Capricorns to look at their relationships as a give and take.
This should be the case with most romantic relationships. It’s a two-way street.
For you to receive, you should also give. In fact, you shouldn’t be giving with the expectation of receiving.
You should be giving freely because you know that, out of love, your partner would reciprocate and you would reciprocate back.
Your giving is an expression of your affection.
The problem with a Capricorn who has a very strong water sign is that the need for the other person’s approval overrides the normal limits.
You have to remember that a relationship has to be a two-way street. This means that both partners must hold up the relationship.
Both partners must do their part.
If you are so desperate for the approval of your partner that you’re the only one giving, your relationship may not be worth hanging on to.
In fact, it may be a sign that your partner is taking you for granted.
If you feel that you’re the only one holding up the relationship on an emotional level, it’s easy to fall into a downward spiral.
This spiral can be very damaging. The less attention you get, the more you give. The more you give, the less attention you get.
Do you see where this is headed? It becomes very unhealthy for your love life.
Pay attention to this sign. If you feel or perceive that you’re the only person giving, you might want to step back and pay attention to the big picture.
Your Partner Takes You for Granted
There are many ways people take others for granted. Simply not talking to them is one way.
Assuming that they know what you want and what you’re about to say is another.
There are many different ways people can take each other for granted.
Your job is to be mindful of these. Your job is to identify these different forms of expression. Also, your job is to call out your partner.
You’re not in a healthy relationship if one side has taken the other for granted.
You’re not in a mutually beneficial relationship if the other partner is basically just giving you a certain amount of emotional attention and leaving you to fend for the rest.
That’s not a mutually beneficial and fulfilling relationship. That’s not a relationship you can grow in.
If you see this sign, you might want to dial back on your own need for approval. You might want to give your partner more opportunities to show their affection to you.
Maybe by holding back your emotions, this can wake up your partner.
Of course, you have to communicate clearly and plainly with them throughout.
Otherwise, this might lead to a downward spiral where they might get the mistaken impression that you no longer love them.
You Feel Your Needs Are Unmet
This is the worst sign of the three that I am listing out here. This sign is very dangerous because it is very tricky.
You have to remember that if the fish side of your horoscope sign has overtaken you, it’s very easy for you to blow things out of all emotional proportion.
Your partner might be seeing things in a completely different light. In fact, the picture might appear very different to your partner.
However, if you are at a highly emotional state, it’s very easy for you to look at your relationship as very imbalanced.
It’s very easy for you to look at your relationship where the only person who is really being fulfilled by the relationship is your partner.
It becomes tempting to compare yourself with your partner. Instead of cooperating to make the relationship work, you end up competing with that person.
This adversarial stance can lead to all sorts of problems.
Again, the solution to this is to take a long hard look if the fish element of your personality has taken over.
Are you looking at things accurately? Are you blowing things out of proportion? The answers might surprise you.
You might think that these questions are pretty straightforward and simple. You might think that this is common sense.
However, it’s very easy to fall into a downward spiral when your emotional side has taken over.
It makes all the sense in the world to step back and give yourself some time to take an emotional inventory.
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