If you’re a Leo, it’s very easy for you to feel that you are in a happy relationship.
In fact, it’s very easy for you to conclude that all your relationships are happy, which is a mistake Leo people do in love.
You might think that the only reason why your relationship didn’t pan out in the past was because of something your partner did.
It’s easy for you to think this way because the typical Leo pattern is to be self-centered.
The common Leo personality configuration is the whole world revolves around you and your needs.
Of course, as you mature, this can all change.
Mature Leos are able to see that they are part of a larger whole and their egos tend to mellow.
Of course, the self-centered focus of their egos as well as their self-absorption never really go away.
Old habits, as you know, die hard. What changes is their perception of context.
They become more sensitive. They put more effort in stepping out of their circle of concern and out of their shell to focus on what others want and need.
As encouraging as this may be, keep in mind that this doesn’t happen overnight for the Leo.
Still, there’s a lot of self-absorption in how you look at things.
Your relationships almost always in your mind break up because of somebody else’s fault. Maybe it’s just the wrong timing or the wrong situation or wrong person you’re with.
For all the reasons you can come up with, they all share one common factor:
It’s not your fault.
It’s very easy for you to get caught in this pattern. It is very easy for you to jump from one relationship to another.
After all, you’re not unattractive. People are attracted to you because of your confidence. They often detect a strong inner core.
Not surprisingly, you tend to be quite magnetic.
However, attracting people is one thing; keeping them is another thing entirely.
In many of your relationships, you feel that there was something that obviously went wrong, and it didn’t work out.
In your mind, you are doing the best you can. In your mind, you brought the right things to the table, and it’s probably the fault of somebody else.
If you’re serious about achieving lasting happiness in your relationships, you need to only look at one key factor.
This key factor is something you’ve been avoiding. In fact, you often look at this factor as a source of motivation or a source of personal drive that pushes you forward.
It definitely goes a long way in explaining how you do things or how you see yourself in situations.
What am I talking about?
I’m talking about your deep and profound sense of insecurity.
Leo people are brash and seemingly strong because they feel they have to put on a show.
They like to project strength because deep down inside, they feel their own weakness and inadequacy. This internal dialogue is one thing that you’d rather avoid.
It’s one thing that you’d rather not acknowledge or even deal with.
However, if you want your relationships in love to last longer, and if you want to be truly happy, you need to address this situation.
So how do you achieve a breakthrough when it comes to this particularly difficult and seemingly unsolvable personal issue?
It doesn’t really matter what triggered those negative feelings. It doesn’t really matter, one way or the other, which experience in your past created this negative pattern in your mindset.
What’s important is for you to acknowledge that you are operating from a sense of insecurity.
This is a breakthrough Leo people need to have. No progress is possible beyond this point. This is non-negotiable.
It has to happen.
It’s okay to admit mistakes. It is okay to understand that you are not perfect and that you don’t have it all figured out.
In short, it is okay to acknowledge your feet of clay.
It’s not a sign of weakness.
It doesn’t mean that there is something fundamentally wrong with you or you’re not worthy of loving. You don’t have to frame things in such dramatic terms.
It’s just something that happens, and something that you responded to in an unproductive way.
I used the word “unproductive” because it’s getting in the way of you developing a healthy self-esteem. It’s also getting in the way of you truly projecting real strength.
Leo people who achieve a high level of maturity become truly strong.
They don’t just look strong or well-put together. They actually have strong cores.
That’s where you need to go in all areas of your life. We’re not just talking about relationships. We’re talking about all areas of your life.
The simplest way to do this is to simply let go.
Letting go is the key to Leo’s happiness.
You have to let go of the past. There may be something traumatic that happened in the past that made you question yourself and made you develop all sorts of negative mindsets.
You have to forgive the past and stop giving it permission to rule your life in the here and now.
Of course, this takes a lot of courage.
This is not affected courage. This is real courage.
You have to look back at that certain point of time that fundamentally changed your personality.
This trauma has to be dealt with because it continues to produce negative effects in your life right now.
If you think that you are happy in certain situations, imagine the happiness and joy you would feel if you address these deep and fundamental issues from your past.
All aspects of your life, whether we’re talking about your relationship, your career, or your education, center on your willingness and readiness to confront the past negative experiences that shaped your self-esteem and your self-conception.
Everybody’s walking around with a particular picture of who they are and the solution to your problems is for you to finally get the right picture.
The picture that you’re hanging on to that affects your behavior, your relationship, and your attitude is the wrong picture.
You only need to grab the right picture.