There are many reasons why Pisces women are often single.
The real reason, though, brings to mind this famous quotation from the classic novel “Anna Karenina” by Leo Tolstoy: “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”
Tolstoy is saying that all happy families are happy for precisely the same reasons; on the other hand, all unhappy families are unhappy for many different reasons.
That same central idea applies to unhappiness. There are many reasons why Pisces people feel unhappy.
But if you look at the common reasons, there’s a central thread running through them.
Nine times out of 10, they lead to negative self-image.
This should not be a surprise. If you don’t feel too good about yourself in a relationship, you probably won’t be sending out the right signals to attract the right people.
Nine times out of 10, you probably would attract the wrong people, which would end up harming you.
Maybe they don’t intend to harm you, maybe they intended the best. But it all just worked out in such a way that you ended up getting hurt.
Make no mistake about it. If you don’t make any progress dealing with your negative self-image, it can all work to poison different aspects of your life.
Your career will be affected, the way you perform at school will be negatively impacted, how you get along with others will take a turn for the worse.
Worst of all, how you deal with members of the opposite gender will be distorted.
And it all begins with how you perceive yourself. It’s all about that image that you have in your mind of yourself.
If you’re still unclear as to how a negative self-image can drag your love life down, keep the following in mind.
1 – You Feel Ugly So You End Up Acting and Looking Ugly
Our external world and actions are merely just reflections of our internal world.
Nobody is immune from the laws of cause and effect.
Your external life and how you get along with other people, as well as the social signals you send out, are simply effects.
The cause is, of course, your internal life. By internal life I’m talking about your mental life.
Your mental life boils down to your assumptions and your expectations. If you feel ugly inside, it can’t help but bubble up to the surface.
This will result in you acting ugly and looking ugly.
You may have no intention to look ugly, you may have no intention to act in such a way that drives people away.
But your internal turmoil is so strong that subconsciously it bubbles up to the surface.
If you want to look better outside, you need to start feeling better inside. Think like a goddess. That’s how it works.
Some people try to flip the script. Some people try to fake it until they make it.
In other words, they try to look good so they can feel good. That can work, too.
Whichever way works for you. But you need to start addressing this issue sooner rather than later.
2 – You Feel Like No One Would Want You, and You Act Accordingly
Love is actually very easy to explain. If you want other people to love you, you must first love yourself.
It’s easy to understand why this is the case.
How can you love other people and be found lovable if you don’t even love yourself?
You can only give what you have. If you don’t love yourself, you have nothing to give. You have no capacity to love because you don’t love yourself. You see how this works out?
Unfortunately, nobody can help you because you have to start within.
People can inspire you, they can give you all sorts of positive words that would motivate you.
But at the end of the day, it’s just you and your self-image. It’s just you and your psyche.
There’s no need to go to a shrink, there’s no need to go to a psychiatrist.
It’s all about you choosing to mold your inner self into what you want it to be.
Happiness really is an imposition of will. Don’t let anybody tell you otherwise.
Unless you are suffering from a serious chemical imbalance, happiness is an imposition of will.
You have to like yourself; you have to be comfortable with yourself. This way you can change how you act, and you would attract more people.
3 – Your Inner Hangups Bubble Subconsciously to the Surface
I’ve already referred to this in the first item of this list. However, this is worth repeating because there are different hangups besides feeling ugly.
There are issues of trust, there are issues of self-respect, there are issues of worthiness.
If you don’t trust yourself and you feel that you are worthless, this is subconsciously going to manifest itself in how you act and how you look.
You have to remember that most people are simple-minded; they only pay attention to external signals. This is why it’s very easy to lie to people.
However, if you are unclear or totally oblivious to how your inner world impacts your external world, your inner hangups will bubble up subconsciously to the surface again and again.
When that happens, you feel that you have no control over the process.
Eventually, you feel that you’re really not in control of your life because people seem to have this built-in reaction to you.
That’s an illusion. You actually can control everything, depending on how in control you are of your feelings and your self-image.
You need to take control over these inner dynamics. Otherwise, you are going to continuously repeat the same negative pattern again and again.
4- If You Feel Hurt Inside, You Often Feel It Gives You An Excuse To Hurt Others
It’s very easy to lash out. It’s very easy to feel that since you’re hurting, nobody else has the right to feel good.
I really can’t blame you for feeling this way because this is a [default?] [reflex?] feeling. It’s easy to feel sorry for yourself.
Since you feel that you are deprived of happiness, then nobody else should be happy.
The problem is that this doesn’t improve your situation. Even if you look at this from a purely selfish perspective, it doesn’t move the ball forward towards your goal of being happy.
Hurting other people will only provoke them to hurt you back. It’s human nature to want to retaliate.
I hope you get that point. Just because you’re hurting inside doesn’t give you a license to make other people’s life hell.
If anything, the amount of hurt you feel inside should push you to help other people in order to feel good.
Maybe they can then radiate some positive emotional signals to you so you can start healing. Regardless of how you cut it, you have to make the first move.
5 – Since You Don’t Feel Happy, You Unconsciously Try To Make Sure That No One Else Is Happy
This is really a grander version of what I said in the previous point.
Since you feel that life is nothing but bitterness for you, then subconsciously you start believing that nobody else has a right to be happy.
If this is your philosophy, then you are going to be a hassle to be around. Nobody would want to be around you.
You have to give yourself permission to be happy. You have to at least open the possibility that you can be happy as well as be intimate around people.
Otherwise, you won’t make much progress. Otherwise, people will avoid you like the plague.
There’s really no incentive for them to hang around you because you’re always negative.
Contents
- 1 – You Feel Ugly So You End Up Acting and Looking Ugly
- 2 – You Feel Like No One Would Want You, and You Act Accordingly
- 3 – Your Inner Hangups Bubble Subconsciously to the Surface
- 4- If You Feel Hurt Inside, You Often Feel It Gives You An Excuse To Hurt Others
- 5 – Since You Don’t Feel Happy, You Unconsciously Try To Make Sure That No One Else Is Happy
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