One of the biggest tragedies in any kind of relationship is when the spark goes out.
The spark of attraction and affection is what makes relationships worthwhile.
It’s easy to think that once you reach a certain stage, the relationship should be about duty and commitment.
Well, while that is true, duty and commitment don’t make your heart beat faster. Duty and commitment don’t make the sunsets romantic and the days worth living for.
It’s that spark that really gives love its full meaning.
This doesn’t mean that your relationship should be just one spark-filled moment after another. I’m not saying that at all.
What I’m saying is that there should be enough sparks in your relationship to make it a continuously moving organism.
The fewer the sparks and the more you have to wait, the easier it is for your relationship to fall apart.
You don’t want to reach a point where one partner realizes that they’re just sticking around due to pride or fear. That’s not a relationship.
Instead, it feels more like a prison. This is extremely important to you if you’re a Pisces.
A Pisces is very big on emotional authenticity. Pisces people live in an emotional world.
They map out the world in emotional terms. They evaluate their relationships based on emotional fulfillment.
Your emotions are your biggest currency. If you feel that you’re not getting the kind of emotional feedback and sustenance you feel you deserve from your partner, keep reading below.
Here are five ways to rekindle the love spark with your partner.
Talk More Often
You might be rolling your eyes with this advice. You might be thinking, “Well, we already talk.” Well, let me tell you one thing.
How you say something is often as important as what you have to say.
You might be talking your heart away, but if you express yourself in such a way that kills discussions, you’re not making much progress.
At the very least, you’re not getting your message across.
When you make an effort to truly talk and communicate with each other, you would focus on how to communicate. You choose your words more carefully. You would time your messages carefully.
In short, you would be focusing on how your message is received instead of what message you want to convey.
In other words, you are going to be looking at communications not just from your perspective, but from the perspective of your partner. If you’re able to do this, you would have taken your communication skills to a whole new other level.
Expect your relationship to be fuller and more vibrant due to a deeper level of communication.
Take Morning Walks Together
Taking a long morning walk with your partner can work wonders for your relationship.
Morning walks energize you at the very beginning of the day. This can set the tone for the rest of your day.
If your morning walk is brisk, it can make you feel liberated and energized for the rest of the day. Things are more possible. Things are more open.
Instead of your daily dealings with your partner feeling like a burden or a chore, you feel energized. You feel engaged.
Instead of feeling like you’re caught in a routine, you end up feeling more emotionally focused.
Do Daily Rituals Together
By simply being in the same room and exchanging words with each other, your daily rituals can strengthen your relationship.
It doesn’t have to be something fancy. It can be as simple as eating breakfast together consistently. It can be watching a certain TV show or doing stuff on the internet together.
Whatever it is, make it a ritual.
It’s all about losing each other in the moment within each other’s presence.
You have to remember that people have their own sphere of being. This is like a small space we have around us.
And when we have this other person sharing our personal space, it deepens our personal sense of intimacy.
We become more in-tune with each other.
It’s not so much the ritual that matters. What matters is the shared space and the shared time.
Take a Long Adventure Together
When you go hiking or camping together, you essentially cut yourself off from the rest of the world.
It’s you and your partner against the world.
This has a strong romantic adventurous tone to it. That’s precisely what you should aim for.
This activity also packs many of the benefits of daily rituals. By immersing yourselves into each other’s company, you create shared experiences.
These are the experiences that you’re going to look back on many years from now. These are the experiences that will bind you closer to each other.
Of course, you have to remember that the longer you take on a road trip with somebody, the higher the potential for conflict.
The good news is that conflict is actually an opportunity.
When you start quarreling and you start fighting, the opportunity is there to make up. The opportunity arises to fully know each other and take the relationship to the next level.
This is how relationships grow. This is how relationships mature.
Real relationships don’t seek to avoid conflict.
They don’t try to walk on eggshells. That’s not a relationship at all.
If anything, that’s an alliance of convenience. In other words, it’s a lie.
That may be great for certain types of friendships. That may be great for certain business relationships.
However, that kind of strategy has no place in a romantic relationship.
Embrace conflict. Embrace misunderstanding and disagreements.
These are opportunities for you to realize how different you are from each other, as well as an opportunity for bridging those differences.
Cook For Each Other
One of my favorite movies is “Like Water for Chocolate”. When one of the characters was asked why her food always tasted so great, she said she only had one secret.
Her secret was she cooked with love.
When you cook for each other, you don’t have to be a gourmet cook.
Instead, when you cook for each other, you show in terms of both visuals and taste how much you mean to each other.
It doesn’t have to be something grand. It doesn’t have to be expensive. It doesn’t have to be fancy.
What matters more is the process. Just be there for each other and show your love and appreciation for each other by cooking for each other.
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