If you’re a Scorpio female, you have probably experienced a situation where guys get excited the moment they learn that you are a Scorpio. Your reputation precedes you.
Throughout history, Scorpio women have a reputation, undeserved or not, of being red-hot lovers. Let’s face it, the traditional reputation of women born under the sign of the Scorpio is that they are skilled lovers and are very passionate.
However, this just reveals one aspect of your personality. The main reason why you are perceived as an intense lover and as a skilled lover is because you’re a very intense person all-around.
Scorpios whether men or women are intense, period. It is this level of intensity that truly defines the Scorpio personality.
Your intensity is emotional in nature. You’re not intense for money, you’re not greedy, you’re not overly ambitious and you are not driven by material gain.
You are driven by emotions.
This drive, this passion can translate to all sorts of achievement in your life. Unfortunately, Scorpios often let their intensity become their stumbling block. I’m going through this exposition of the typical Scorpio personality because it also informs the dating life of Scorpio women.
If you have a clear understanding of these factors then you can understand how they play into your dating choices and how you respond to dating opportunities.
Here are four dating tips for Scorpio women:
Tip #1: Your Intensity Is Intoxicating
Even if the guy that you go on a date with or the guy that you’ve been dating for some time doesn’t know that you’re a Scorpio, it doesn’t matter. This person is going to be intoxicated by your intensity. You’re the type of person that doesn’t sit on the fence.
You’re the type of person that doesn’t hesitate to make a decision. When you go in, you don’t just go in, you go all in. In this world where people are often shallow and you don’t know where people stand, it’s very refreshing to see somebody with a lot of passion and with a lot of intensity.
This draws guys to you like a moth to a flame. They might not want to sleep with you. All of them might not want you for lovemaking purposes or be your boyfriend, but they are drawn to you because intensity, real intensity not fake passion is appealing.
Many people don’t even know what they stand for. Many people can’t even make up their minds. So when somebody comes along that not only seems to know what she wants and is willing to put her heart in it, people are encouraged.
People are energized and it’s not uncommon for you to have a lot of male friends because they are inspired by you.
That is your gift. That is your ace in the hole when it comes to dating. You don’t have to look like Angelina Jolie. There’s no need for that. All you need to do is to be honest with your intensity and your level of passion will show and regardless of what you look like, guys will be attracted on some level or another.
Tip #2: Don’t Be Too Quick To Judge
As I’ve mentioned earlier, in many cases, the Scorpio’s intensity is actually what sets the Scorpio back. You can be often too quick to judge. You basically like to look at the world in black and white.
While your system is not as ridiculous as that of a Virgo, it’s close to it. The reality is that people are gray. Oftentimes, it takes challenges and certain trying circumstances for people to actually show their true colors.
Don’t be too impatient. Don’t be too quick to put them on one column or another or one category or another. Instead, let time work its magic. Enjoy the moment.
Unfortunately, this is very hard for the Scorpio woman to do.
She often likes to judge people and go from there. And worst of all, you don’t like to admit that you made a mistake.
It’s not uncommon for Scorpio women to go on dates and they actually want to date with Mr. Right but they judge the person wrong and they missed that opportunity forever.
Tip #3: Friendship Is Always an Option
Don’t think that if you’re on a date with the guy that you either have to sleep with him or break his heart by rejecting him. There is a third way.
There is a third option. Always remember this option. Friendship is always an option.
Many Scorpio women are so passionate that they think that love is a boom or bust affair.
Either it’s a direct hit or it’s a disaster. I’m sorry to break it to you, but you can’t live your life that way.
In many cases, there are gray-area choices. In many cases, Mr. Right maybe looking at you right in your face while you’re on a date at a restaurant. You look at this person and you see a fat slob, you see a person that’s not going anywhere in his career; you see a person that has serious problems. However, trapped within, given the right opportunity lies Mr. Right.
Don’t let go of golden opportunities by failing to press the friendship button. Friendship is always an option. You don’t have to reject a guy or become his lover. There is a third option.
Tip #4: Being Open-Minded Means Clamping Down on Oversensitivity
You probably wouldn’t like to hear this, but I’m going to say it anyway. If you’re like the typical Scorpio woman, you tend to be on the oversensitive side.
You need to get some control over this aspect of your personality. It’s not going to lead you to anywhere nice. It’s not going to lead to anything positive.
In many cases, it often leads you to make quick judgments and all of a sudden, you find yourself regretting your decision.
In a dating context, many Scorpio women become oversensitive to the things their date says and all of a sudden, they either put that date in the reject pile or in the lover pile when it would have been better if they didn’t make any quick judgments.
By being overly sensitive, you often make the wrong decisions. You have to be aware of this. You really have to assert some level of control over your tendency to become oversensitive.
In many cases, especially in terms of relationships, your oversensitivity can cause a lot of problems. It can push you to make wrong decisions. It can push you to make decisions that you would regret later on.