Taurus: Five Ways To Protect Your New Relationship

Taurus people can be very stubborn.

Forget what you have heard in the past.  Being stubborn is not necessarily negative. 

In many cases, the stubbornness of the Taurus actually works to their favor. 

You tend to hang in there while everybody else is giving up.  You tend to hang in there while everybody else starts doubting and start sabotaging themselves with their doubts.

In many cases, your stubbornness and bullheadedness are what accounts for your success.  You have to understand this.

You have to be at peace with this aspect of yourself.  Your stubbornness can definitely help you.

However, there are certain situations where your stubbornness can harm you.  You have to know when to let go and when to hang on.

This is extremely important in the area of emotions and love.

In your relationships, there are certain situations where you have to let go.

However, there are certain situations where you need to hang in there until the relationship recovers and gets to where you want it to go.

What makes this all frustrating is that the dividing line is not always clear.

There is often a thin line between a relationship worth saving and sacrificing for, and a relationship that is damaged beyond repair.

In many cases, windows of opportunity open up and close just as quickly.

Assuming that you want to preserve and protect a relationship to make it even more improved because you think it is worth it, here are five ways you can do that.

Set Clear Rules

A relationship is supposed to benefit both partners.  I know this might sound like a revolutionary idea to many people, but that is the way it should work.

It should exist for both of you.  It does not just exist for one person.

In fact, it should not exist just for both of your selfish needs.  It has to have its own agenda.  It has to establish its own patterns that benefit both of you.

It is very easy to look at the relationship as some sort of contractual agreement where I would only stay in it if it benefits me.

In other words, if the other person in the relationship stops giving me what I am looking for, this gives me an excuse to get out of the relationship. 

This is a very narrow, shallow and ultimately harmful definition of relationship.

When you enter into a relationship, you are entering into a situation where a third party is born.  The relationship is born.

It has its own needs.  It has its own agenda.  If you play by its rules, then it can benefit both of you.

This is why it is important to set clear rules in your relationship.  This eliminates a lot of unnecessary surprises as well as potentially harmful drama.

Be Clear About Your Expectations

It is okay to have expectations about your relationship.

I know that you may have had a bad relationship in the past and you are so desperate about establishing a new relationship that you are willing to deny your expectations.

At the very least, you are willing to put your expectations in the back burner.  I suggest you do not do that.

 Your new relationship gives you a new chance to put your expectations front and center. 

It gives you a new chance to direct the relationship to a place that benefits both of you.  This is why it is extremely important for you to be clear about your expectations.

Now is not the time to be shy.  There is no need to play it cool.  You have to lay it out on the table so both of you can see where you stand.

Say What You Mean

If you are serious about protecting and preserving your relationship, you need to say what you mean and mean what you say.

You have to remember that you are not really helping anybody by being overly concerned about hurting their emotions. 

While there is a fine line between being blunt and being offensive, you have to remember that it all boils down to intent.

As long as you do not intend to harm and it is obvious that there is no ill intent meant, then it is okay to say what you mean.

The more candid you are in your relationship, the higher the likelihood that it will survive and grow.

However, if you like to walk on egg shells, or set all sorts of impossible limits on communication in your relationship, you are ensuring that it will die an early death.

Make Sure You are With the Right Person

I know this sounds quite obvious, but if you feel like you are in love, obvious things are not so obvious.

Make sure you are with the right person.  Make sure you are with a person that deserves your love.  Make sure you are with a person that deserves your attention and care.

I am sorry to break this to you, but not everybody out there is worthy of your time and attention.

In fact, there are a lot of people out there that would just use you and abuse you.  These are emotional leeches.

They suck you up until you are dry and then they move on to the next person, and then the next person after that.  They do not really care about the people that they are with.

They may seem like basket cases.  They may seem like people worth saving, but that is their agenda.

They want to look pitiful so you can take care of them, but in reality they are very needy and abusive people.  Stay away from those people.

Make sure you are with a person who has his head screwed on right.

Make sure you are with a person that will stand on his own two feet and hold up his end of the relationship. 

The last thing that you want is a mama’s boy.

Conduct Yourself Based on the Assumption Your Relationship is a Two-Way Street

As I mentioned earlier, both partners should hold up their end of the relationship.

It is not your job to hold up your man’s end of the relationship.  It is not your job to do his job.  I hope that is clear.

If there is any sort of imbalance in your relationship, you are embarking on the slippery slope to abuse.

By expecting and demanding equality in your relationship as far as responsibilities are concerned, you go a long way in protecting and preserving your relationship.

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