Virgo women are just amazing.
Seriously.
If you’re looking for great conversations, good-looking people, people that will treat you right as well as make you feel good, Virgo people are great people. They make good friends and they make even better lovers.
Virgo women are very sensitive, they really care and they can form deep, lasting emotional bonds.
With that said, there is no such thing as a perfect horoscope sign. For every positive Virgo trait, there is always a not-so positive side. In many cases, what makes Virgo people such great friends and lovers also contributes to what makes them not-so great friends and lovers.
In my opinion the Virgo personality is really all about perfectionism. The real reason why they’re such fun to be with, the real reason they can become such great, deep and intimate friends and lovers is because they have this ideal of what a perfect friend or a perfect lover would be.
They try to live up to that ideal. In many cases, they go out on a limb and take a gamble on people not knowing if those people would reciprocate the same love, the same friendship, the same affection.
You really can’t fault Virgo people for really falling back into their shell when they feel that they’re not getting the kind of love they think they deserve.
They try really hard to give people the ideal kind of love, affection and loyalty that they have in their mind.
The downside to the Virgo personality is when they expect that in return. This is a serious problem because we live in an imperfect world. Let’s face it, that’s just the way it is.
Whatever dreams we may have, it’s not always going to pan out in the same exact way as we dreamed it. Most people, most horoscope signs can live with this; most people move on; most people adapt. Most people are flexible, not the Virgo.
The Virgo is not going down without a fight. This is why a lot of them walk around disappointed. They are discouraged. They are frustrated because they have this idea the way things should be.
They have this idea of the perfect relationship. They have this idea of the perfect friendship. When those don’t match reality, instead of questioning their ideals and maybe making some small adjustments here and there, they question reality.
What’s wrong with this picture? The truth is, the world doesn’t revolve around you, but you better revolve around the world if you want to live a happy life. I can’t really sum it up any better than that.
If you want to live the kind of life where you are fulfilled, happy and you feel that you have a purpose on this planet, you better look the world in the eye, learn from the world and revise your idea of a perfect world based on what you see. In other words, focus on what is instead of getting all caught up in what should be.
Unfortunately, Virgo women missed the memo on this. They’re just completely clueless regarding this and this impacts all aspects of their lives including dating.
With that in mind, here are my top four dating tips for Virgo women:
Tip #1: There Is No Such Thing as a Perfect Guy
Let me say it straight up, if you are in your 20s, it’s okay to believe that there is such a thing as a perfect guy. When you’re in your 30s, it’s a good time to start being flexible. When you’re in your 40s, I’m sorry to break it to you, if you still believe there is such a thing as a perfect guy, you are probably going to end up alone.
That might sound harsh. That might sound insensitive, but it’s also perfectly true.
The only thing keeping you from meeting the perfect guy is your conception of the perfect guy. There is no such thing as a perfect person. You’re obviously not perfect, why should other people be perfect.
Instead of looking at Mr. Right in terms of absolute perfection, look at Mr. Right in terms of whether he fits your goals, whether he shares the same values as you, whether he has the same plans as you and you can bond on a deep, intimate emotional level quite well.
That is a nice working definition of a “perfect guy”. Anything else, whether in the looks department, in the job department, in the ambition department or in intellectual department is going to fall apart, there is no such thing as a perfect guy.
You have to repeat that again and again until it makes sense because if you end up in a relationship and you’re expecting that person to be perfect or you’re trying to make that perfect person, it’s not going to pan out.
How much heartbreak do you need to go through before you understand this fundamental lesson?
Don’t sabotage your dates by expecting him to be perfect. It’s not going to happen.
Tip #2: Size Up Each Guy Based On His Own Merits
Every person deserves respect. What is the best way to respect a person? Look at him as an individual. That’s right. Don’t look at him based on his raise; don’t look at him based on where he went to school or some sort of invisible standard that you kind of measure him up against. Every person is special.
When we treat each person as special, meaning, we treat them based on their merits. We look at them based on who they are, where they’ve been, what they’ve done then we treat them with respect. That respect, after all, is the foundation of love.
This is a fundamental dating tip because many Virgo women hold up a picture of the perfect guy and guess what, most people will not match up to that ridiculous picture you’re holding up.
Tip #3: You Don’t Have To Agree Completely
Even if you are a Virgo woman that is able to compromise with your ideals and you can agree that there is no such thing as a perfect guy, you can prevent yourself from getting into meaningful and lasting relationships because you have this unrealistic idea that you have to find your soul mate immediately.
I’m sorry to break it to you, but just as there is no perfect guy, there is no perfect relationship when you start.
In fact, there is no such thing as a perfect relationship.
Every relationship is a work in progress. In other words, relationships are valuable not based on their perfection or what they have right, but based on what they have wrong.
For example, when you’re in a relationship and your relationship is faced with challenges, what makes that relationship valuable is your ability as a couple to survive those challenges. In other words, you grow into the relationship.
You prevent this from happening when you insist that your relationship be perfect immediately by thinking that any disagreement is a sign of a weakness in the relationship.
Tip #4: Don’t Let Perfect Become the Enemy of Good
This statement pretty much sums up the challenges Virgo women have with dating. In your quest to find the perfect guy, you’ll probably end up rejecting or walking away from great relationships.
You have to remember the world rewards great because perfect is not always present. Don’t let your life become one fruitless search for the perfect man and the perfect relationship.
If you unconsciously fall into that trap, you will live a very frustrated life and chances are, you probably will die discouraged, frustrated or alone.
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