Aquarius guys are very easy to fall in love with. They really are.
They seem to know how to ask the right questions, when to ask the right questions, and say the right things. It’s very easy to get lost in that emotional aura that they seem to have around them.
They can be very welcoming and very accepting. They seem to have a talent for reading you like a book.
It’s very easy to get that warm, fuzzy feeling that you have finally arrived at a place that you are fully accepted and never judged.
These of course are the classic symptoms of a new relationship with an Aquarius person. However, reality always intervenes or gets in the way.
The reality is that the Aquarius personality is more complicated than you think.
In many cases, it becomes overcomplicated and entangles the non-Aquarius partner. Instead of this warm, welcoming place where you can find yourself, it becomes a trap.
In many cases, it becomes a prison.
If you are dating an Aquarius man, you have to remember six fundamental things. This would enable you to set the right ground rules if you ever decide to have a relationship with this person.
Otherwise, you might fall into the very common trap of reading too much into the relationship and being trapped by something that turned out to be completely opposite of what you expected.
He’s an emotional idealist
Ideals are great things. They really are.
They help us live up to a higher standard. They give us some sort of principles that allow us to map out our worlds.
At the very least, they set parameters to which we can aspire to. In some measures, they make life worth living.
However, they can also become oppressive.
If your principles and standards are set so high, instead of helping you live life to its fullest potential, you can easily become overburdened.
You become frustrated and disappointed at all times because you never meet this imaginary ideal.
There’s a fine line between having principles and standards and imposing unnecessary burdens on yourself. Unfortunately, Aquarius men tend to overstep this line frequently.
By knowing that he’s an emotional idealist, you can push back. You can remind this person that he is living in reality.
Things are never as black and white as the Aquarius man would like to imagine them to be. By calling him out regarding his emotional idealism, your relationship can be built on a more solid footing.
In fact, the biggest favor you can do for that special Aquarius man in your life is to remind him to approach your relationship based on real terms.
Instead of the Aquarius approaching or treating your relationship based on terms he wishes existed, you demand that he ‘keep it real.’
This provides tremendous benefits not just for you and your relationship together but for his emotional and mental well being and evolution as well.
Spell out what you mean
A lot of Aquarius people like to think that they’re so in tune emotionally that they can pretty much read their partner. This is a very dangerous trap.
There’s really no person that can look at another person and know exactly what they’re feeling. Instead, most of the time, people read in emotional meanings into the signals people send out.
Since most of the time half of this correct, it gives an illusion of accuracy. This can lead to all sorts of problems.
If you don’t want your Aquarius man to get the wrong impression of you, you need to spell out what you mean.
You need to explain where you’re coming from.
This goes a long way in preventing him from reading too much into you. It might seem tedious at times.
Unfortunately, if you don’t want unnecessary drama, complications, and difficulties, you need to spell out the obvious.
Gray area in your relationship can overcomplicate things
As I’ve mentioned earlier, the world is not black and white. The world is complicated. There are a lot of nuances you need to be aware of in terms of emotion.
Unfortunately, Aquarius people don’t believe this.
Instead, they like to believe in the fiction that emotions can be neatly categorized into black-and-white categories.
You need to work with your Aquarius partner so that he can see the gray areas in your relationship. Otherwise, he would look at these areas as sources of confusion and even infidelity.
Again, his tendency to overcomplicate things and read too much into things can throw a wrench in your relationship.
Emotional intensity can only go so far
A lot of women read the Aquarius man’s emotional intensity as a positive asset. They think that it makes them somehow more real than guys who spend a lot of time denying their emotional side.
Well, emotional intensity can go so far. In fact, it can go too far where the person has become totally unrealistic.
You have to remember that relationships are always two-way streets.
It’s very easy for Aquarius guys to become so emotionally intense that the whole axis of the relationship turns around them, their needs, and their definitions.
This is a dangerous territory.
Why? You’ve been completely painted out of the picture.
Be clear about your personal love language
There are five personal love languages: kind words, acts of service, touch, gifts, and quality time.
Be clear as to how you prefer to show your affection and how you prefer to receive affection.
This goes a long way in dispelling Aquarius misconceptions regarding emotional intimacy and expressing their affection.
Just focus on emotional authenticity can make you a better person
Let’s face it, Aquarius men can be such idealists that they can take your relationship to hell and back.
The good news is a lot of this can actually be good for you. Their emotional authenticity pushes you on a corner. They can really help you realize what’s important in your emotional life.
In many cases, Aquarius men might not end up marrying their partner, but they end up benefiting them just as well. How?
Their emotional authenticity ends up making their partner grow up.
You become more mature and more polished so you are prepared for a real lasting love in your next relationship.
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