Aquarius people may look like they are very different people. Some Aquarius people maybe have differently than other people born under the same sign.
It may seem like there is no unifying trait among different Aquarius people. You might even falsely conclude that the Aquarius is some sort of horoscope grab bag of different personality types.
It is kind of tempting to look at and define the Aquarius horoscope sign as some sort of catch all category for different types of personalities.
This, of course, is a mistake because if you were to study all Aquarius people, they all share one common trait. They are emotional idealists.
Just as the Virgo is a creative idealist, the Aquarius is an emotional idealist. They have a fixed idea as to how people should get along and relate with each other.
However, unlike the Virgo, which imposes their idealism to the rest of the world and feel unhappy if there is no fit, the Aquarius is at peace with the fact that they have certain ideas, principles, and standards that may not fit reality.
They can accept that, but it does not dampen their resolve to make a positive change by being a great example of their emotional ideals. At least, this is how Aquarius people look at it.
From their perspective, they are doing the world a great favor because they have all of these standards and principles.
Unfortunately, this is the one trait that most people hate about the Aquarius. This emotional idealist, and if taken to extremes, can cause serious problems.
At worst, this trait can make the Aquarius a real hassle to be around with.
If you are an Aquarius and you want to know why people have a cow with this aspect of your personality, here are the reasons why.
– It poisons your relationships
If you are an emotional idealist, you come off as a judge, like you know better than other people, you have seen something better, or that you are somebody better.
People do not like to be called out and compared to some sort of ideal that may or may not exist. What people do like is to be accepted for who they are.
This, of course, means being at peace with whatever short comings that they may have.
Unfortunately, this is very hard for Aquarius people to totally accept.
They hang on to their emotional idealism even if it appears that they are the most accepting and non-judgmental people in the world.
It is a very tough habit to break. They feel that their emotional idealism has gotten them this far so why make a change now?
Unfortunately, it ends up poisoning your relationship and worst of all, it does not come from other people.
People are just simply being themselves and just doing things the way they normally do things.
The poisoning comes from you because you look at these people with a judgmental eye and try to size them up based on something that does not really exist, then you end up distancing yourself from, restricting them, or treating them a certain way because you have restricted them in your mind.
In other words, the poison comes from within.
Eventually, people will catch on and they will try to distance themselves from you. This really is all avoidable.
By simply allowing a healthy distance between the real world and your emotionally ideal world, you can come to some sort of a happy compromise.
You can still believe in your principles and standards, but do not let them negatively impact your relationships.
– It makes you judgmental
Nobody likes judgmental people. Seriously, who likes to be around people who makes them feel like crap and tells them how lousy they are?
People like to feel good, special, and valued. People do not like to be made to feel that they are less than worthy.
This is precisely what happens when you judge people based on your emotional ideals.
You have these impossible standards and people who do not measure up are somehow morally suspect.
In reality, they are worth appreciating and loving on their own terms. That is what makes people, people.
There is no such thing as a perfect human being. Everybody has shortcomings and screws up.
By being judgmental, you are basically rejecting people all of the time. Unfortunately, you can only reject people so many times until they start pushing back.
– People hate walking on eggshells around you
There are a lot of people who truly like and admire you. They would move heaven and hell just to be around you.
However, they do have their limits. If your emotional idealism has gotten the best of you, these people would be reduced to walking on egg shells.
They can only do this for so long. Why?
Most people hate walking on egg shells. Most people like to communicate honestly and simply be themselves.
If you are giving off these toxic signals where you are demanding a certain level of engagement or set of behavior from people, they will be forced to walk on egg shells.
However, rest assured, this is going to be a short time before they simply cut you off.
Don’t get me wrong. There is a place for emotional idealism, standards, and values. There really is.
However, too many Aquarius people use their standards to filter and divide their friends.
This really is too bad because Aquarius people have a lot to offer. They really do. But they easily get overwhelmed.
A better approach would be to reach and teach people through example. That’s right-be the change you want to see.
If you feel that people should be more emotionally authentic with each other, go out of your way to be an example of emotional authenticity and integrity in your circle of friends or acquaintances.
If you feel that people should not lie and live up to the highest standards of integrity, you need to lead the way. See how all this works out?