If there is a way to summarize the Cancer personality, it is this. They are a study in contrast. They really are.
This should not be a surprise. After all, the Cancer horoscope sign is based on the crab.
If you have ever eaten or approached a crab, you would know that it is a creature that is a study in contrast.
On the outside of the crab, you have a tough exoskeleton. It has a tough armor that can take a lot of pressure, beating, and can still be able to move forward.
However, if you successfully open a crab, you would realize that raw crab meat is soft and mushy inside. They are actually very vulnerable.
This is why it is no surprise that they need that tough outside armor.
This dichotomy between a tough outer shell and a soft inner world explains the Cancer personality. They like to give a good show, give people the impression that they have it all figured out, and that they have everything under control.
However, deep down inside, they are falling apart and have a quivering mask of insecurity and low self-confidence. This dichotomy will never change. This defines the Cancer personality.
However, what separates happy Cancer people from unhappy ones is maturity. Mature cancer people embrace this inner dichotomy and make it work in their favor.
Unhappy or unfulfilled Cancers try to run away from embracing this inner dichotomy and try to fix this inner contrast.
However, they are up against impossible odds because they cannot change their character. I hope you see the problem here.
If you are a Cancer and you are suffering from bouts of depression or you are simply not fulfilled with the way that your life is going, here are 3 proven ways to boost your happiness.
We are not just talking about a temporary boost, but we are talking about a change of mind and perspective that can lead you to live a more fulfilling and complete life.
– Be more accepting of yourself
The reason why you are so unhappy is because you look at this internal dichotomy and see it as a source of embarrassment. At the very least, you look at it as some sort of weakness.
The truth is that there is no such thing as a perfect horoscope sign. Just as all horoscope signs have strong sides, they also have deep, fundamentally flawed, and weak sides.
There is no such thing as a perfect human being. We all have our pros and cons, shortcomings, as well as, strong suits.
That is part of what it is like to be a human being.
If you are able to accept this truth, then you can start inching towards accepting this truth’s application to yourself.
In other words, be more accepting of yourself.
You will be surprised as to how much happier you will be because you free yourself from all sorts of unnecessary pressures that you put on yourself.
There is no written rule that requires you to be perfect. There is no group of people that would be disappointed if you fall short in some sort of ideal of perfection.
You are the only person putting all of those impossible demands on yourself.
By being more accepting and flexible of yourself, you will be more comfortable in your skin.
You would judge yourself and others less. As a result, you would feel more confident and your world would not fall apart if you feel that you have screwed up.
– Understand that you do not have to prove yourself to anyone
A lot of Cancer people achieve high levels of success because they feel that they have to prove themselves. They might not particularly like what they are doing, nor think that their goal is worthy.
However, they are so eager to make others happy that they go through all of these hurdles and challenges just to prove themselves.
At the end of the process and long journey, they end up realizing that they were speaking to an empty hall. In other words, the people who they thought that they were proving themselves to do not exist.
This is a very lonely realization. It is like going through all of these efforts, hassle, and sacrifice only to realize that you have been lying to yourself all along.
Cancer people tend to do this over and over again because they are driven by the need to prove themselves. The truth is, you do not have to prove yourself to anyone.
Everybody has got enough problems of their own. They are not really looking at you and could care less because they have their own issues.
What you should focus on is in proving yourself to yourself. This means, of course, being honest enough with yourself to truly figure out what is important to you.
Understand what your real values are and work towards those.
In many cases, the best approach towards a sustainable level of personal happiness is to focus on character growth.
It is too easy to look at life as a series of destinations. However, if you look at life this way, you would be extremely unhappy. Why?
Once you reach destination 1, you will not allow yourself to be happy until you reach destination 2. What happens when you reach destination 2? You are still not happy.
Why? Because destination 3 still exists.
This sad little game keeps playing out until you die. That is not exactly the best definition of happiness.
By allowing yourself to realize that you do not have to prove yourself to anyone, you increase your likelihood of being happy in the here and now.
– Hold yourself to a higher standard, but be more forgiving
Another cause for unhappiness of Cancer people is the fact that their standard of excellence shifts. In fact, their standard changes based on who they are around.
This should not be a surprise because they are always looking to prove themselves to other people. The respect and validation of other people are so important to them that they lose themselves.
The truth is that nobody can make you happy except yourself. This is why you have to hold yourself to your own personal standard and forget everybody else. This is the only standard that works.
Otherwise, you will run yourself ragged and chasing approval, but at the end of the day, you are only beating yourself up.
If you want more happiness in your life, you need to establish that sense of inner peace by sticking to your personal standards.