If you are a Leo woman and are looking for love, you have your work cut out for you.
It is very easy to assume that there are no good guys out there and think that all the good guys are either married or gay. Well, the reality is that there are a lot of good guys out there.
You only have to have the right mindset for you to recognize them. In fact, at your work or at your school, the right guy might be sitting right next to you.
Unfortunately, you are unable to recognize this fact because you have blinders on, the wrong mindset, or maybe you are suffering from the wrong kinds of expectations and assumptions.
Regardless of your particular mindset, it is getting in the way of you recognizing the fact that great guys are everywhere. They are not going anywhere anytime soon.
If you want to achieve a high degree of dating success, you have to take these blinders off and have the right mindset.
Here are 5 highly effective tips for empowered dating in today’s smart Leo woman.
– Good men are available, just know when to spot them
Did you notice that I said when instead of where? This is very important.
You have to remember that finding the right person is a question of timing. It is not a question of location.
The fact is that everybody is changing. We are all products of our circumstances and situations.
Never write people off because the right person can develop very quickly. It only takes the right combination of situations to bring out the best in people.
Similarly, otherwise, good people can hit a rough patch and experience a series of setbacks that can turn them into the wrong people.
In many cases, the big difference between a sinner and a saint is simply one bad day.
I hope that you can understand and wrap your mind around that. Otherwise, you might simply spend a lot of your time writing off guys who would, otherwise, be perfectly good for you.
The truth is that good men are available, but just know when to spot them and when they are at the right place in their lives for them to give you what you are looking for.
– Always be ready to filter out guys
While it is true that good guys are available pretty much everywhere and anytime, it is also true that the vast majority of guys out there are wrong for you.
They are wrong for you not because they are evil and they intend to harm you, but because they simply do not fit your needs. You have to understand this and accept this fact.
A lot of women think that, since they are perfect, any guy can fit their needs. This is a sure recipe for disaster.
You have to have proper filters. A lot of guys may not intend to use and abuse you, but, at the end of the day, that is what happens.
Why does this happen? They have the wrong values. You might not see eye to eye.
So, do yourself a big favor by employing the right filters.
At the very least, make sure that you share the same values and have the same idea as to where you want the relationship to go.
Make sure that you are looking for the same things. Otherwise, you are simply setting yourself up for not just dating failure, but potentially emotional harm down the road.
– Avoid “Mr. Right now” mindset
A lot of women have resigned themselves to the fact that Mr. Right does not exist.
Of course, we all know that this is not true. Mr. Right happens all of the time. It is just a question of timing.
With that said, a lot of women have resigned themselves from the fact that their knight in shining armor does not exist, at least at the present moment.
This is why a lot of them have adopted the completely different mindset of choosing Mr. Right now, instead of Mr. Right.
This is a serious problem. The “Mr. Right now” mindset is as flawed as the “Mr. Right” mindset.
When you are simply aiming to find a guy just to meet certain biological or emotional needs, first, you are using people.
You should not look at people that way, nor as some sort of emotional candy store that you can stroll into and pick some sort of merchandise that would make you feel good.
When you do that, you are simply using people. You are not respecting and appreciating them for what they bring to the table.
Second, the Mr. Right now mindset simply robs you of the opportunity to find the right person.
The fact is that Mr. Right exists. It is just a question of timing.
By plugging into Mr. Right now, you are taking yourself off the market and you could have used this time better by looking for the right person that meets your specific needs.
Not only can this person meet your needs, but you can also meet this person’s needs.
Remember, real relationships are two-way streets. It is all about helping each other grow and contributing to each other in a mutually respectful environment.
– Good guys are worth waiting for: Enjoy the wait
The truth is that Mr. Right can happen and will appear if you give him time to appear. This requires patience.
You cannot look at your dating life like they way you look at other aspects of your life.
For example, for your need for diet products, you simply need to go to a particular store, pick up a product off the shelf, go home, unpack the product, and then use the product.
You cannot look at your dating life that way.
Real good guys who can add real value to your life and are worth your time and attention are worth waiting for.
I know that this is cold comfort for many of you out there and that you are feeling really lonely, but the truth is that, unless you want to get emotionally hurt, it is better to wait.
– Improve yourself while waiting for the right guy
The question then becomes, how do you spend your time while you are filtering out all of these wrong guys? Very simple.
Make the best use of that time by improving yourself.
You can go on a diet, exercise, go on several self-awareness or self-discovery journeys, or read a lot of interesting books.
Whatever you do, focus on devoting the time you are waiting for the right guy in improving yourself.
In this way, your principles and your standards remain intact while at the same time, you are avoiding potentially negative emotional situations.
Above all else, do not get desperate.
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