If you’re a Leo and you notice that your marriage is on the rocks, don’t lose hope.
There are many Leo relationships that have survived tough times. Just because you’re going through a rough spot right now doesn’t necessarily mean that your marriage is doomed.
You have to understand that it took a lot for you to get married. It should take a lot for you to get out of your marriage.
You shouldn’t give up so easily.
If you are the typical Leo, then you have the inner core and inner strength to power through your marriage’s rocky road.
However, you have to have the right framework. You have to have the right blueprint or game plan.
Otherwise, it’s very easy to let your temper and impatience get the best of you.
It’s very easy to look at your marriage as beyond repair.
The worst thing you can do is to simply quit. If you write off your marriage, guess what, it will fail.
Because the only way to fail in life is to give up. That’s the bottom line.
Just like a boxer can get knocked to his knees, it doesn’t automatically mean that the match is over. He can still get back up and put up a fight.
The same goes with your marriage.
Even though it’s been knocked down several times, it doesn’t mean that it’s down for the count.
Just because you have certain issues that keep coming up again and again doesn’t necessarily mean that your problems are unsolvable.
It is only unsolvable if you yourself make it mentally unsolvable.
In other words, you believe that it is beyond repair. Here are six relationship rules that can save your marriage.
Rule 1: The Relationship Has Its Own Life
If you were to interview 100 happy couples who have been married over 60 years, they can tell you one thing in common.
They owe their loyalty not to their partner, but to the relationship.
This is a deep and profound insight that many behavioral psychologists have uncovered in recent years.
When you look at your marriage as simply a contract, you are dooming your marriage. Why?
People fall short. People screw up.
Just as you can screw up, your partner can screw up. If you are going to base your marriage on how well you or your partner can prevent yourselves from screwing up, then you are simply wasting your time.
A marriage is not a contract. It’s not something that will only continue to exist if both parties do their part. It has its own life.
If you look at your marriage that way, then your marriage will be successful. Why?
You will start acting out of principle. You will start dedicating to something higher and more powerful than yourself.
You start looking at your relationship as having its own rules and its own reason for being.
Even if your love for your partner goes away, you can still remain dedicated and committed to the relationship. There is a big difference.
This is why many couples can survive cancer. This is why many couples can go through hell and back. Why?
They are more loyal to the relationship than to each other. If you’re able to wrap your mind around this fundamental truth, then your marriage will survive.
Rule 2: Focus on the Relationship, Not Your Partner
This is really a reiteration of rule number one, but I can’t repeat it enough.
Focus on your relationship, not your partner.
Focus on what’s good with your relationship, not with how your partner is screwing up. Focus on what is worth saving, rather than on how worthless your partner is.
You have to understand that people are imperfect. People screw up all the time.
If you were to define your relationships based on the weaknesses and shortcomings of each other, then you don’t have a relationship.
All you have is a convenient bond. It’s something that can be entered into and broken at will. In other words, you have nothing.
However, if you focus on the relationship, then you have something.
You have something worth being loyal to. You have something worth committing yourself fully to.
Know the difference.
Rule 3: Learn to Say Sorry
I know this is blasphemy to say to a Leo, but I need to say it.
You have to learn how to say sorry.
Just as your partner is a real human being who can screw up, so can you.
I know it’s very hard to accept. I know you’d rather believe otherwise. But this is the reality.
If you are able to accept your own failings, you would be able to say sorry. This is fundamental.
I’m not just saying that you should say it with your mouth. I’m saying that you should mean it.
Because humility deepens love. Pride destroys love. Also, pride leads to fear.
Unfortunately, relationships based on fear never prosper.
If you learn to say sorry, you inject a much needed level of humility into your relationship. By doing this, you insert much needed life back into your relationship.
Rule 4: Learn to Accept Responsibility for Things That Go Wrong
This goes with being able to say sorry.
If you are able to take responsibility for things that go wrong in your relationship, your relationship becomes a true two-way relationship.
However, if you’re always blaming your partner for screwing up, you are ensuring that your relationship doesn’t grow.
You are positioning yourself in such a way that you yourself don’t grow in the relationship.
You have to understand that saying you’re sorry or saying that you did something wrong doesn’t make you weak. It doesn’t make you less of a man or woman.
What it does make you is mature.
It makes you more lovable. It makes you more human. I hope you understand the big picture here.
By being humble and understanding your shortcomings, you would be able to accept more responsibility for your relationship.
Rule 5: Step Into the Emotional Life of Your Partner
You have to understand that your partner isn’t complaining because he/she likes to complain.
While you may have that situation with certain Virgos, for the most part, they complain for a good reason.
For the most part, they speak up because there is something fundamentally wrong with your relationship.
You have to pay attention to this. You should be mindful of the fact that people do things for a reason. They are not just making noise.
The best way to solve this problem is to step into the emotional life of your partner. Look at your marriage from their perspective.
What are they looking for in your marriage? What are their expectations? What are their assumptions?
By stepping into their shoes, you can make quite a bit of progress. You would be able to respond out of empathy.
Instead of you feeling that your relationship or marriage revolves around your needs, you will be able to step out of yourself.
Rule 6: Devote More of Your Time to Making Your Partner Happy
If you truly love your partner, you need to make him/her happy. That’s the bottom line.
Happiness is the key to a successful relationship.
The good news is that it shouldn’t take much to make somebody else happy.
In most cases, simply giving them your time is more than enough. Regardless, you need to make their happiness a priority.
Otherwise, you are in a marriage that is a form of emotional slavery. Worst of all, it’s slavery for both of you.
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