The title of this article probably has you wondering. You might be thinking an amazing love life happens to people; people don’t make it. You don’t make a life; life happens.
Well, if you think this way, you are on to something.
You have identified a core limiting idea that’s holding you back from the happiness and fulfillment that you deserve.
It’s amazing how many people feel they are prisoners of their lives. It’s amazing to realize how many people feel that they are living some sort of automated script that leads to unhappiness and lack of fulfillment.
If you’re not happy with your love life, you have to get the right idea in your head. The right idea is you can create an amazing love life for yourself.
Do you see that sentence? Do you see that word “create?”
Create means control, focus, and dominance. This sense of control must be present; otherwise, you’re not going to be happy.
Sure, you can be happy from time to time. You can be joyful given the right set of circumstances.
However, you will always be at the mercy of other people because your happiness and joy come outside of you. Do you see how pointless this is?
When you base your happiness on factors that you can’t control, nine times out of ten, you won’t be happy.
The same applies to your love life. You have to seize on that idea that you can create your love life, and you have more control than you give yourself credit for.
You have more power than you realize. It’s all about how you look at your ability to love.
Love doesn’t happen to you. Love isn’t something that somebody gives you.
It’s something you allow to happen and create. It’s a product of your will.
Here are some basic tips on how to create an amazing love life even if you haven’t met anyone yet.
Love yourself first
The Leo woman or man is often viewed as one of the strongest characters in the horoscope. From a purely visual perspective, this is absolutely correct.
There’s nothing like a Leo charging into a room and taking control. You know how to do that. You have a huge reservoir of outward self-confidence.
Of course, this is all a projection because the reason why you act this way is because you’re operating in a deep and profound sense of inadequacy.
You feel very insecure and vulnerable inside.
Unfortunately, you don’t want to acknowledge this. You keep running away from it. The more you avoid it, the more outward strength you project.
It’s as if you are hoping against hope that your outward projection of strength will somehow, someway become internal. In short, by acting strong, you are hoping to be strong.
Do you see how this leads to failure and how this holds you back?
You have to first be strong for you to act strong, not the other way around.
This logic also applies to your love life. You can only give what you have.
If you don’t love yourself, how can you expect to love others?
If you want to create an amazing love life, you have to understand that love doesn’t happen accidentally. Love isn’t a product that you pick up off a grocery shelf, put on your cart, and take home.
Instead, it’s something that is a product of your will. You can fall in love whenever you want. You can fall in love with people that you originally thought you couldn’t fall in live with.
Again, it’s a product of your will. If it’s a product of your will, then you can use your willpower to create it on command.
This is all impossible if you don’t have love for yourself. This should be your first task: Learn how to love yourself.
It’s okay to be imperfect, flawed, or damaged. We all make mistakes and make bad decisions.
What we can’t do is to become slaves to the past. We can’t let the guilt of the past destroy our present happiness.
If you understand all of this, then you have what takes to start falling in love with yourself.
Loving yourself doesn’t mean you love other people less. Loving yourself doesn’t mean that you’re selfish or there’s something bad about you.
Instead, it’s fundamental to a healthy ego and healthy self-esteem. Nobody can love you unless you love yourself first.
Work on that. Impose your will on that.
Love people who deserve to be loved
You have to understand that we all send out energy signals.
Our life is a reflection of the signals that we send out and the signals that we choose to perceive.
The truth is there is no such thing as a completely negative or positive signal.
For example, if I’m sitting here at Starbucks and somebody crashes to my car in the parking lot, I have two options: I can go out there and carry on like a chicken with its head cut off, or I can calmly whip out my mobile phone and call my insurance company.
Which response do you think would produce better results? I hope the answer is clear.
The truth is in both situations, I’m still responding to the same objective fact. The only difference is how I chose to perceive that fact.
In other words, what’s outside of me remains the same. It’s what’s inside of me that was different.
You should look at your love life the same way.
There are many signals that the world sends you that you interpret as a defeat, rejection, or punishment.
By simply changing how you interpret these signals so that you become stronger, better, and more fulfilled, you can build inner strength.
You need this inner strength because you’re going to create the people that you’re going to fall in love with.
There is no such thing as love at first sight or predetermined love because all sorts of random events happen in life, and if the person that you’re destined to be with dies all of a sudden, where does that leave you?
So from a purely statistical perspective, that’s a lie. Instead, love is something that you impose, something that’s a product of your will, and something that you choose.
With that out of the way, you have to make sure you create the right people in your life. You have to read signals that people send out and weigh them properly.
Certain people are sending out signals that would lead you to have a more solid foundation.
Other people are very selfish, and they’re just focused on their needs.
This might not be as beneficial for you. Learn to see the difference.
You owe it to yourself because if you make a mistake, you only have one person to blame.
This is how a Leo can create an amazing love life.
You have a tremendous amount of willpower. Use it to free yourself instead of constantly enslaving yourself in a downward spiral of low self-esteem and low self-confidence.