If you’re a Libra and you’re thinking of meeting members of the opposite gender through online dating sites, I have some good news and some bad news. First, the good news.
Dating online is much better than offline dating. It really is.
You don’t have to spend as much time, effort, and money trying to find the right date.
Also, there’s a lot less guesswork involved. While it’s true that dating will involve some sort of guesswork and some sort of surprise, with online dating, there’s less of that at play. It’s really easy to see why.
People put up pictures. They fill out a profile. You can easily sort through thousands of profiles.
In fact, finding a date in your part of town can be as easy as typing in the right keywords into an online dating site’s search engine. This is the good news.
The bad news is that it’s easy for the Libra personality to get caught up in all the bells and whistles of a typical online dating site.
It’s very easy for you to go on auto-pilot when you’re confronted with a lot of information. I think you know exactly what I’m talking about.
The Libra mind is all about trying to achieve balance. It’s all about trying to get as much information so the Libra can get an informed decision.
In normal circumstances, this plays out in a pretty straightforward and simple way. You get enough information, you get off the fence, and you make a decision.
The problem is that when you have so many choices and there are a lot of open questions regarding those choices, it’s easy for your mind to go on auto-pilot.
We’re talking about auto-pilot in the worst way possible. It’s as if your hard drive in your computer keeps spinning and spinning and spinning, and won’t seem to stop.
This is called analysis paralysis.
If you’re a Libra woman or man, this is your biggest challenge in life.
This can impact your career. This can impact how much money you make. This can impact your relationships.
It’s really bad news.
Unfortunately, nine times out of ten, you feel like a deer caught in headlights.
You know that what you’re doing is bad. You know that this automatic process you’re engaged in is not going to lead to something good.
However, you do it anyway. You feel that there’s really no other option. You feel that you are left with no other alternatives.
You need to get over this. Otherwise, online dating is going to lead to failure after failure.
Stop Analyzing and Looking, and Take Action
You have to set a firm deadline for yourself where you get off the fence and pull the trigger.
You really have to draw a line in the sand as to when you will go all the way and take action.
Unfortunately, typical Libras get a lot of information, and they think that the best way to arrive at a decision is to, guess what, get more information.
I’m sorry to break this to you, but getting more information is not going to make your life any better.
You have to remember that dating, just like with other aspects of your life, will always have open questions.
No one can possibly know anything about any kind of project. No one can give you a 100% slam-dunk deal.
It’s like trying to buy a stock at Wall Street. While all the best brokers in the world would say that a particular stock is a good buy and you’ve done the research, there is always that off chance that you will lose your money.
That’s the bottom line.
The same goes with dating. In fact, it’s much safer with dating. Why?
The only thing you would lose is some of your dignity and some of your time. That’s it. That’s all that is at stake.
In fact, use this fact to your advantage. Stop analyzing your dating options and quit filtering through the data. You can keep filtering on and on and on, and run out of time.
Unfortunately, this is exactly the same kind of pattern most Libras find themselves in.
They know it’s bad. They know it’s not good for them. They know that they would rather be doing something else.
However, they feel that they’re stuck. They feel that they can’t get rid of this pattern. This is your number one barrier to success.
So how do you succeed at online dating? Very simple.
Stop analyzing and looking, and start taking action.
It really is that simple. You just have to pull the trigger.
You’ve gotten all the facts. You’ve done all the searches. You’ve gone through all sorts of databases.
You’ve read many different profiles.
The next step is to simply take action.
Send them a message. They won’t destroy your ego if they never respond back.
It Won’t Kill You if They Reject You
The key here with online dating is that there is a certain level of personal distance. It’s nothing personal.
It may be your haircut in your profile picture. It may be one line you put in your dating profile.
Whatever it is, there is something that the potential date didn’t like.
The worst thing they can do is to say no. That’s just part of the game.
Don’t let your fear of rejection get in the way of you taking action that can lead to meeting the right person.
You have to remember that you have to always risk something to get something worthwhile in return.
Unfortunately, if you fall back into your old habit of demanding more and more information and analyzing all these data, you’re simply just running away from making a decision.
You’re simply operating out of fear.
Fear is not going to bring love. Fear is not going to make you complete.
You have to get over your fear of rejection and humiliation, and start taking action.
The good news is that once you start taking action, this will become second nature to you.
You will stop overanalyzing and you would start taking more and more risks. Risk is the spice of life.
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