Scorpio people are always looking for love.
It doesn’t matter whether you’re in a relationship or not. Scorpios are always looking for love.
Even if you’re in a relationship already, you’re still looking for higher levels of love. That’s how emotionally intense you are.
You can’t help it. That’s how you look at the world.
You look at the world with a black-and-white lens.
Either people are with you, or they are against you. Either you’re in love or you’re not in love.
It’s a very high standard. This gives you a high degree intensity that either draws people to you like moths to a flame or repels people.
The great thing about you is that there is no lying with you. There is no comfortable middle ground or awkward gray areas.
You are black and white.
This gives you a tremendous sense of comfort and a tremendous sense of purpose and meaning in your life.
Unfortunately, this also holds you back because the world is far from black and white. In fact, most of the world is gray. Most of the world falls in that awkward middle area.
You can’t easily and conveniently categorize it as either good or bad.
Just as most people are combinations of angels and devils, most of us are sinners and saints. That’s the way life is. It’s messy.
Unfortunately, try telling that to a Scorpio.
Scorpio likes nice and easy categorizations.
This is why a lot of them are quite disappointed. A lot of them simply cannot make the world make sense in their minds. A lot of this plays into the historical fact that Scorpios are one of the most misunderstood signs of the horoscope.
Keep the discussion above in mind when trying to analyze the seven signs I’m going to lay out below. The discussion above informs why you think the way you think.
The information above also informs the seven signs outlined below. Here are the seven unmistakable signs that special person in your life is the one.
He knows you can sometimes get crazy but still loves you
You’re a very emotionally intense person, and it’s very easy to misunderstand you as somewhat unhinged. It’s actually unavoidable because the world is very conventional.
We like to create pictures of normalcy. We like to come up with some sort of statistical model as to what acceptable in terms of emotional displays and emotional intensity and then anything that falls outside is abnormal.
It’s very easy for you to feel alone because you feel so intensely. You love intensely. You hate intensely.
This person in your life knows that you have that tendency but still loves you anyway. This means a total and unconditional acceptance.
This is an unmistakable sign that this is the right person for you because, let’s face it, you’re very hard to accept. It’s very hard to hold fire in one’s hands.
So somebody who’s able to take your intensity and give you total acceptance is worth hanging on to.
One of the main reasons why this person is the one for you is because he doesn’t cancel you. He doesn’t offset you.
It’s not like you’re intense, and he’s the antithesis of intensity. No, it doesn’t work that way.
In fact, you actually share the same level of intensity in certain areas of life.
On certain topics, he burns with the same or even greater passion than you. I know this is hard to believe, but it’s true.
This is a clear indicator that this person has a lot of common with you as far as intensity is concerned.
He lets you into his emotional world
It’s very easy to become skeptical and suspicious of emotionally intense people. It really is.
Why? They can do a lot of damage if you let them inside your emotional world.
If you let them get too close on a heart level, it’s very easy for them to rearrange your emotional furniture and do lasting damage.
If you have that special guy in your life, and he has completely let you into his emotional world, he is the one.
Why? This means complete and total surrender. This means complete and total trust.
Most people will only allow you to get close to a certain level and contrary to what you may think, emotional intimacy is not real intimacy because that’s the most superficial level.
It’s when somebody actually draws down the gates of the fortress of his heart and lets you in completely with no conditions.
That’s when you know that this person is truly vulnerable to you. If he’s able to do that, then he is the one for you.
You fight frequently, but you make up very quickly
Frequent fights come with a territory as far as emotional intensity is concerned.
The main reason why you fight with each other is because you’re emotionally open and honest with each other.
You’d be surprised as to how many people in relationships don’t fight. It’s not because they don’t want to fight. It’s not because there are no opportunities for fighting.
It’s because they don’t want to make a mess of things.
They are walking on eggshells and unfortunately, these are relationships that will end up breaking apart someway somehow.
Sure, they might be together until they die but one of them has emotionally died a long time ago. Alternatively, one of them has emotionally rolled the other partner off for emotional safety sake a long time ago.
That is not a relationship that has lived up to its fullest potential.
Keep that in mind the next time you fight. Just because you fight doesn’t mean that there’s somebody fundamentally wrong with your relationship.
In fact, it’s a great sign of health.
As long as you make up very quickly, it means that there’s a lot of dynamism and a lot of room for growth in your relationship. There’s a big sense of adventure there.
Each fight with him deepens your relationship
It’s not enough for a fight to end very quickly. It’s nice when a long, drawn-out, and drag out fight ends sooner rather than later, but it has to lead to somewhere.
You can fight because you’re just letting out emotions, or you can fight because you truly want to know somebody.
It’s the latter that deepens relationships, and the good news is you know you have the right one in your life if that’s the kind of fights you have.
Don’t be afraid of fighting as long as the fights lead to somewhere real and somewhere deep.
Also, the fights have to be honest. It can’t be just some sort of battle between self-delusions.
He understands you more than anybody
One of the scariest things that can ever happen to a person is when another person truly understands them. It really is scary.
Why? It seems that the person can truly read you and in many cases, the person knows you better than you know yourself.
There’s a deep and profound sense of lack of control when this happens. You are forced to do one of two things: either you hit the exit, or you trust fully.
When you feel that guy in your life truly understands you more than anybody else on this planet, and you feel the need to trust him, then he is Mr. Right.
He accepts you and your past completely
Everybody has a past. I don’t care who you are. I don’t care how awesome the show you put up is.
You have a past. Everybody makes mistakes.
Everybody has scars that they’d like to keep hidden.
Of course, these are invisible scars but there are scars nonetheless. These are moments that we’re not too proud of.
These are situations where we weren’t guided by our better angels.
If that special person in your life understands and fully sees your past but still accepts you anyway, you know that he is the one for you.
Why? It’s very hard to accept Scorpios at least at the very beginning. You have to really work hard at easing people into your past.
If this guy fully accepts your past and accepts you totally, then he is the one for you until marriage.
Consider yourself lucky.
You’ve spotted a unicorn.
- He knows you can sometimes get crazy but still loves you
- He shares some of your intensity on certain things
- He lets you into his emotional world
- You fight frequently, but you make up very quickly
- Each fight with him deepens your relationship
- He understands you more than anybody
- He accepts you and your past completely