If there’s any factor driving the Scorpio personality, it is emotions.
You are a very emotional creature. This is why Scorpio is one of the most intense signs of the horoscope.
Scorpios tend to look at things in black and white. They are either happy or they are crushed.
They are either doing really well, or they are complete and total losers.
They don’t believe in gray areas.
This is a serious problem. This ability to look at and appreciate the gray areas in life is what separates a fully mature Scorpio from a Scorpio who is still developing.
If you want to stop feeling bad about being single, you have to wrap your mind around three key facts.
These facts will really set you free.
In fact, they would stop you from going through the very common and predictable pattern of beating yourself up emotionally.
It’s easy for you to get really harsh on yourself. Why?
You love very strongly and when you feel that love is gone from your life, it’s very easy for you to feel really ugly and feel really alone.
It’s also very easy for you to fall into the trap of thinking that there’s something fundamentally wrong with being single.
Many Scorpios think that being single is some sort badge of shame. They look at being single as a proof that there is something wrong with them.
There’s nothing wrong with being single.
When you’re single, it means that you are still looking for the right person. When you’re single, all it means is that you haven’t found the right person yet.
However, try telling this to the Scorpio.
In the Scorpio mind when it comes to love, being single means that there’s a deep fundamental flaw with you and nobody wants to be with you.
Instead of looking at being single as some sort of temporary stage everybody goes through as they go from relationship to relationship, many Scorpios look at the single life as a fatal flaw.
I hope that by understanding these three facts, you can adopt the right mindset that would allow you to feel good about being single.
There’s nothing fundamentally wrong about being single.
In fact, it is a gateway to personal growth. In fact, you could use all the time and freedom you have being single to achieve a higher level of personal development and maturity.
Here are three things to remember when you feel bad about being single.
You are in control
Did you know that everything in your life is a product of your mental processes?
They really are. Your external world is a reflection of your internal world.
The level of success or failure you’re currently experiencing is due to the fact that you chose to believe in certain things. This is how it works.
Your life is a product of a chain reaction. This chain reaction has three parts: mental picture, emotional triggers, and action.
Since your world is a product of your decisions and actions, it’s worth our time to trace it to its ultimate source.
That ultimate source of course is your thoughts.
Put it in another way, there are many things happening to your right now, but you put different meanings on those things. These meanings can then trigger certain emotions.
These emotional triggers then trigger different actions.
For example, if you’re looking at your car in the parking lot, and you see a truck hit it from the back, you can either interpret it as an extremely negative situation that should get you all emotional about or you can treat it as something that happens all the time.
If you interpret it as a normal part of everyday life, you then calmly take out your mobile phone and call your insurance agent so you can take care of the repairs needed for your vehicle.
Do you see how this all works out?
The same neutral stimulus is at play but your mental judgment of what happened makes all the difference.
You can choose to freak out, but that’s really not going to do you much good because in all your stress, you start making the wrong decisions.
At the end of the day, you still have a car to repair.
I hope you see how this scenario plays up the fact that you are always in control. You’re always in control of how you read situations.
Read situations in such a way that they lead to positive results. Read the feedback that you get from the world in such a way that you don’t feel bad about being single.
You are free to be happy in the here and now
The second fact that you need to understand is that you are free to be happy. Happiness is a choice. Happiness is an imposition of your will.
In fact, people in prison can be happy. People with cancer can be happy.
If happiness is this objective reality that can only happen in certain fixed situations, then few people would be happy. Always remember this.
Always come back to the fact that you can choose to be happy where you are. You can choose to be happy on your own terms.
Happiness doesn’t come from a partner or relationship; it comes from within
Always remember that other people do not define you. Always remember that true happiness do not come from the outside world.
It doesn’t come from other people. It doesn’t come from whether people love you or not. It comes from inside you.
In other words, you give permission to be happy. You owe it to yourself to be happy, and you can make that decision today.
The only person that is ensuring that you are anxious and unhappy now is yourself.
You have to always remember that happiness comes from within. You can conjure it at will.
Does this mean you’re just fooling yourself? Does this mean that you’re being crazy or being an emotional liar?
All it means is that you are being realistic. All it means is you’re taking full responsibility for your emotional health.
Otherwise, you’re always going to put the power over your emotions in the hands of people you can’t control.
Otherwise, you would let circumstances ruin your personal life. You are worth more than that.
You are more capable than that.
Assume control and power today. Always remember that happiness comes from within you.