I really hate one-size-fits-all advice. I really do. In most cases, the advice doesn’t really apply.
This should not be a surprise. After all, we all come from different backgrounds. Our lives have different sets of circumstances.
We may even live in the same city but live totally different lives from each other.
In fact, people that live right next door to you might have a totally different life from you.
This is part of what makes life so exciting. We are all capable of making an infinite number of choices.
These choices send ripples throughout our lives. These ripples then change our lives in dramatic ways.
Even if we look quite similar to each other, what we feel inside might be very different. Even if we drive the same cars, live in the same part of town, or eat the same food, we can still live very different lives.
Given all these differences, both in terms of what you can see and what you can’t see, it doesn’t really make much sense to focus on one piece of advice.
The good news is this is not always true.
While a one-size-fits-all advice, especially relationship advice usually doesn’t apply, in some cases they do. In this minority of cases, they make a big difference.
Of course, this doesn’t apply to all horoscope signs. However, to the horoscope signs that this applies to, people should pay attention.
When it comes to relationships, all Virgo women and men share a lot in common.
In fact, there is only one thing they need to give their partner to build a solid relationship.
While the specific details in your particular set of circumstances might need to get tweaked here and there, the broad outlines are true.
Pay attention because this might be the secret to having a solid relationship with that Virgo in your life.
If you’re the Virgo, this might be the advice that you’ve been looking for all this time.
Choose to live in reality
I know this might sound harsh. This might even sound heartless.
However, I would be doing you a big disservice if I try to sugarcoat things.
I would really not be helping you if I try to give you the answer you think you deserve to hear. Instead, I’m just going to tell you the unvarnished truth.
Virgo people have a reality problem. It doesn’t matter what kind of Virgo you are. It doesn’t matter when you are born. It doesn’t matter what you do.
None of that matters. What matters is what goes on in between your ears.
Virgos among all the horoscope signs are prone to self-delusion. This is a very specific form of self-delusion.
However, it’s also very tragic. What delusion is this?
They have this imaginary ideal world in their minds. They then turn around and judge the real world based on this ideal.
I have no problems with people having ideals. In fact, ideals are what make life worth living.
If you have no dreams and worth, then life is worthless.
Life would be pointless if you have no point in the future that you aspire to.
I’m not talking about that kind of ideal.
What I am talking about is this ideal perfect world that Virgos cling stubbornly to.
They judge everything based on this imaginary picture.
The problem is it doesn’t exist. It’s not based in the real world.
To make matters worse, they beat themselves up when the real world and their real relationships and the things going on around them don’t match up to this ideal.
They have such high expectations of other people and themselves that they set up themselves for a whole lot of misery.
Worst of all, they make the people around them tense and miserable.
Let go of the imaginary world
If you want to give your partner the best relationship possible, you only need to let go of this imaginary world.
It’s very easy for your mind to obsess on the way things should be. Maybe you should focus most, if not all, of that energy with the way things really are.
By focusing on the way things exist in reality, you might be able to achieve more with your life.
You might end up feeling more fulfilled. You might end up feeling more complete.
This is extremely crucial when it comes to your relationship.
You have to understand that there is no such thing as a perfect person. There is no such thing as a perfect partner.
However, when you try to size up your current partner in reality based on how that person should act, chances are you are just setting yourself up for a heartbreak.
Chances are you’re just pushing that person out of the door.
That person might not leave right now or leave next week. However, if you continue to do things the way that you’re going about, he or she will leave.
This should not be a mystery. This isn’t rocket science.
When you try to push people, or you criticize people for not behaving based on some sort of idea that they don’t subscribe to, you are imposing impossible conditions.
You are putting unrealistic pressure on your relationship. The worst part of it all is that this is all unnecessary pressure.
This all stems from the fact that you are hard on yourself. You think that you have to look at the world in black-and-white terms for things to happen in your life.
If you just let go of that and you tone down that perfectionism, you will be much happier.
Not only would people be happier around you, but you will be a more pleasant person to be with.
You have to remember that your partner loves you. Your partner is there because he or she sees the beauty in you.
The worst thing that can happen is for that person to leave because they felt pushed out.
This is precisely what you’re doing when you constantly subconsciously or consciously compare them to something that doesn’t exist.
Again, it’s okay to have ideals and dreams but keep them in their proper place.
Keep a proper perspective. Otherwise, you’re going to be creating a lot of unnecessary drama in your life.
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