The title of this article probably threw you for a loop. After all, among the many signs of the horoscope, Scorpios don’t have much trouble attracting people.
Of course, people are attracted to them in the same way people are repelled by them.
I am of course talking about Scorpios’ natural intensity. They are so intense that they act like bright lights in a dark room.
Just as organisms are drawn to bright lights, Scorpios don’t have a problem drawing attention.
The key challenge lies on whether this attention is welcome or not.
If you are a Scorpio woman or man, and you are looking to make yourself more attractive, you need to pay attention.
Keep the following tips in mind to maximize your attractiveness.
Tone it down a bit
As I’ve mentioned earlier, it really doesn’t take much for you to get attention. In fact, you’ve turned it into an art form.
While other horoscope signs can have a tough time getting attention, attention comes to you naturally.
Unfortunately, it’s easy for you to draw negative attention as it is for you to draw positive attention. All this of course stems from your intensity.
You are a person who doesn’t believe in doing anything in half measures or in going halfway.
In everything you do, you either go all the way, or you don’t get up and do it at all. That’s the kind of person you are.
This can help you tremendously in other aspects of your life. When it comes to career and school, your tendency to focus can help you become successful.
After all, discipline is the raw ingredient for any kind of success in life. You can be disciplined due to your sheer focus.
The problem is when you focus on the wrong things, you can become quite obsessive.
You can get all sorts of negative ideas in your mind, and this can prove to be your undoing.
In many cases, you tend to fixate on things that happened long in the past. You become a slave to your past.
You keep reliving bad memories, and they poison your current reality. They poison your relationships, your self-esteem, and life in general.
Life is supposed to be positive, enjoyed, and taken on moment by moment.
You rob yourself of this by focusing on negative things that happened in the past.
With this background out of the way, you need to learn how to control this process. You need to be clear as to what you’re focusing on.
Otherwise, the attention that you will be drawing will be negative attention.
It may start out as positive. However, if your focus remains where it often is, the positive attention you get can sour.
This is a very common pattern to you. This should not be a surprise.
Unfortunately, you feel that you’re trapped in some sort of pattern or this is some sort of addiction you can’t break.
It’s very easy for you to think that you are caught in some sort of cycle that you really don’t have much control over.
Well, if this is your expectation, then change is not possible.
If you think that your life is just a result of forces beyond your control, then that’s precisely what’s going to happen.
The saddest part of all this is that you voluntarily gave up all that control.
If you want to become more attractive and be more pleasing to others, you only need to do one thing.
This may seem simplistic or almost radical in how straightforward it is, but it is nonetheless true.
You only need to dial it down
I’m not saying that you should stop focusing or become a totally different person. I’m not saying that at all. Nobody is telling you to trade in your personality for a new personality.
What I am saying is that you need to change the intensity of your focus. It’s okay to focus. Just don’t be as intense about it.
For example, if something very traumatic happened to you in the past, it’s okay to acknowledge that these memories do come back or see it in your mind’s eye.
It’s not okay to allow the emotional triggers those memories bring into play to overtake your life.
Do you see the difference?
In short, it’s okay to acknowledge thoughts. It’s not okay to judge them. This is the key.
You might not think you’re a judgmental person, and you have that side to you, but you really do.
It’s impossible for you to be as emotionally intense as you are without a heavy amount of judging.
By toning down your tendency to read too much into the thoughts and memories you have, you can make yourself much more attractive.
Again, we’re not talking about you trading in your personality or turning yourself into a completely different person.
We are just talking about you changing the intensity level of your focus so that you don’t scare off people.
Moreover, this triggers a positive call and response process within you.
If you look at the world as a threatening place, you would start sending off defensive signals, which come off as threatening as well.
When the world perceives this, it sends off more threatening signals, which then triggers another round. Do you see where this is headed?
This is the automatic loop feedback process that you feel you’re trapped in.
The good news is that you hold the key. There are no prison walls surrounding you.
By simply focusing the right way and changing how you think, you would achieve wonders.
You would feel free for the first time in the long time and feel empowered. Instead of feeling that there is some sort of script you really can’t change, you would feel that you have a lot of say in what goes on in your life.
This increased sense of control can lead to higher levels of confidence. This higher level of confidence and inner peace can draw more people to you.
If you want to make yourself infinitely more attractive, you only need to tone down your emotional intensity.