If you’re a typical Scorpio, chances are you are either alone, looking to be in a relationship, or in an unhappy relationship.
It’s very rare to find a Scorpio who is truly and completely happy with his/her relationship. It does happen from time to time, but it is quite rare.
If you are in a relationship right now and you’re hanging on, congratulations. Pat yourself on the back.
Unfortunately for too many Scorpios, they tend to look at their emotional world in black-and-white terms.
Either you are fully happy or you are unhappy. There is no gray area. There is no compromise for you.
You feel that compromising this part of your life is a sign of weakness.
The truth is we have to live in this world, and this world is full of compromises.
You have to understand that. You have to accept that and move on.
By looking at the world as this black-and-white philosophical construct, you are only dooming yourself to deep and profound unhappiness.
Even if you find the most loving partner in the world, it would never be enough. Why?
Your definition of emotional authenticity and personal happiness within your relationship is so extreme that it ruins your relationships.
I know I’m speaking in broad terms here. However, I need to paint in broad strokes so you can get a clear understanding of the big picture.
This is the fundamental flaw in your relationships. Guess what.
The solution to a bad relationship is not another relationship.
In many cases, Scorpios repeat the same tired pattern with new lovers. As a result, they seem to be playing out the same script over and over again.
If you want to finally get off that unhappy treadmill, you need to pay attention to what I’m about to say.
If you want to stop believing that you are just simply unlucky in love, you need to wrap your mind regarding the concepts I’m about to reveal.
Here are the three bad habits that ruin Scorpio relationships.
Your Inability to Forgive
Scorpio people are famous throughout history for being vindictive. As the old saying goes, “You can screw everybody else up. Just don’t screw a Scorpio.”
Why? The punishment will be one million times worse than the offense.
Scorpios love to pay back. They don’t just pay back once, but they pay back one million times over.
They don’t believe in eye for an eye. If you take out their eye, they’ll kill you.
That’s the exchange for them. That’s the only measure of justice that makes sense in their eyes. That’s how intense the Scorpio can be.
The worst part is if you screw over a Scorpio woman. As the old saying goes, “Hell hath no fury than a woman scorned.”
Well, to scorn a Scorpio woman would mean to incur the wrath of hell one million times over.
Scorpios are intense. And unfortunately, this carries over to all aspects of their life. One particular aspect is very worrisome.
It leads to strained relationships. It leads to all sorts of unnecessary drama. You are simply unable to forgive.
The good news is that this is a habit.
Just as you learned to be unforgiving, you can learn to be more forgiving.
You can learn to give people more slack.
You have to understand that the reason why you are unable to forgive people is because you look at the world in black-and-white terms.
Somebody is either with you or against you. People are either your friends or your enemies.
Unfortunately, the world doesn’t work that way. There are lots of gray areas. There are lots of neutral territories in this world.
If you’re able to understand this, then you should be able to be more forgiving. You should be able to give people the benefit of the doubt.
You have to understand that not everything that happens in your emotional world is intentional.
Somebody may have hurt you, but they probably didn’t mean it. Something bad may have happened, but most people in that situation probably didn’t want that to happen.
If you are able to allow yourself to believe this, then you should be able to forgive.
This is extremely important because your inability to forgive poisons your relationships.
It makes you very vindictive. It enables you to push people out of your life.
These may be perfectly good people. These may be people who can lead you to that higher emotional plane you deserve to be on.
Most importantly, these may be people who could help you mature as a human being.
Measuring Your Relationship’s Emotional Intensity Based on Your Own Specific Standard
If I haven’t made it clear yet, Scorpio people are nothing but intense.
You are an emotional fireball. It’s okay to be emotionally intense. In fact, this is what makes you a really good friend.
Scorpios are very loyal. They are friends you can count on. They are friends you can go to hell and back with.
That’s how intense their friendships can be.
It’s not uncommon for a Scorpio friend to undergo a lot of personal risk and financial ruin just to bail out a friend.
That’s how good of friends they can be.
However, that level of loyalty comes with a steep price. They look at their relationships based on their own standards. They expect the same intensity back.
This is a problem. Why?
Most horoscope signs don’t operate at that high intensity level. Not even close. So this kind of standard is always going to lead to all sorts of problems down the road.
In many cases, Scorpios end up abandoning friends because they feel that their friends are not reciprocating the same level of intensity.
The truth is their friends are perfectly loyal. Their friends are perfectly helpful.
Unfortunately, they can’t meet the same intensity level as the Scorpio.
Never measure your relationships based on your own emotional intensity. Why?
Your emotional intensity is one of a kind.
Comparing Your Current Lover With Your Exes
The surest way to be miserable is to always compare yourself to other people.
This is true when it comes to income. This is true when it comes to net worth.
And this is definitely true when it comes to your emotions.
Never ever compare your current lover with your ex-lovers.
Everybody is different. Everybody has different backgrounds. Everybody brings different things to the table.
You have to look at your current partner based on his/her own merits. You have to look at your current relationship based on the specific situation surrounding your relationship.
Doing things any other way would be unfair. If anything, you would be putting all sorts of unnecessary pressure and demands on your relationship.
This will end up undermining your relationship and ruining it.