If you are a Virgo woman or man, it is very easy to live a life that is far from joyful. It really is. Why?
It is not like Virgos are incapable of being happy. It is not like Virgos have nothing to be happy about.
The problem is they do not allow themselves to be happy.
The reason is easy to understand. The reason is that most Virgos have this ideal perfect world in their minds.
There is really nothing wrong with this. There is really nothing wrong with having high ideals and standards.
However, they have to remain ideals.
Unfortunately, for most Virgos, they take these ideal standards and superimposed it on their real world.
What do you think happens? They become miserable.
You have to remember that you cannot judge the world based on what it could be. You have to simply find meaning in the world the way it is.
Unfortunately, Virgos beat themselves up by trying to put a square peg in a round hole. They do this in all areas of their life.
Not surprisingly, Virgos are often frustrated, discouraged and oftentimes depressed.
If you are sick and tired of this pattern and you want to bring more joy into your life, here are eight ways to do that.
Step Away from Your Ideals and Enjoy the Moment
You might want to take a break from judging the world to simply enjoying the world on a moment by moment basis.
You would be surprised as to how much fun you would have. Most importantly, you would be surprised as to how light you will feel.
You would feel that some tremendous burden was taken off your back and you just jump from one moment to the next moment, you enjoy people for who they are.
I know this is very hard for you to do, but if you take baby steps, you will make a progress sooner rather than later.
Learn to Accept People as They Are
People are not you. I know you understand that. I know on an intellectual level you can get that.
However, on an emotional level you are completely immune to that reality. You simply expect people to understand you.
Worst of all, you simply expect people to have the same values as you.
It does not work that way.
We are all different people. We look at the world in different ways. We come from different backgrounds and we have different experiences.
Not surprisingly, our lived lives are different from each other. This difference is not something to be scared of.
In fact, this difference is what we should celebrate because this is what makes us blessings to each other.
Learn to understand this fact. Learn to accept it. Take every different person you come across as they are.
You will be surprised to see how much you like them if you evaluate them based on who they are instead of who you wish them to be.
Learn to Accept the Beauty in Every Situation
Just as there is a lot of fun in every moment, there is also a lot of beauty.
Unfortunately, Virgos love to rob themselves of joy because they always look at what is imperfect in every situation.
They look at what is wrong, which is a clear negative personality of a Virgo.
Well, I want you to flip that model on your head and learn to spot what is going right.
You would be surprised that nine times out of ten, there are more good things happening than bad things.
Unfortunately, you focus too much on the 10% that is going wrong that you fail to allow yourself to feel good about everything else.
Trust Your Intuitions More
The Virgos really love to feel that they need to be in control.
This is why they are always judging. This is why they are always taking out that perfectionist mental ruler and sizing everything up based on that measure.
This is a serious problem because the more you need to establish control, the less in control you feel. It really is ironic.
The better approach would be to trust your intuition more. People with a Virgo star sign are very intelligent. Let us just get that out of the way.
I know you do not want to believe this, but it is true. You are very intelligent.
In fact, you have a high degree of intuition. Learn to listen to that small voice. Learn to go on auto pilot more often.
You would be surprised as to how much more peaceful and happier you would be.
Learn to Accept Variability in Every Situation
Things change. That is just the fact of life. In fact, the only constant thing about life is change.
Unfortunately, Virgos want to freeze everything because that is the best way they can line up everything with that mental image that they have.
Stop doing that. If you try to keep doing that, you will only be unhappy. You will just be prolonging the pain. Why?
Things are always changing. People are always changing.
Instead of blaming situations and people for changing, be happy in that situation. Be comfortable with the fact that things change.
The sooner you accept this variability, the happier you will become.
You will no longer be that fish that is trying to swim against the current. It is very tiring, and at the end of the day, it is going to be very pointless unless you are going to breathe at upstream somewhere.
Be More Flexible
All the tips above lead to one solid conclusion.
If you want to be happier, you really need to be more flexible.
You really need to be more forgiving. You really need to be more open.
The longer you cling to your fixed notions of how things should be, the more miserable you would be.
Instead, try to be more variable. Try to be more flexible. Try to live in every moment.
If you are able to do that, you would be much happier and also more effective. You would be able to get more things done and make more friends.
Tap Into Different Parts of your Persona
One of the problems with Virgo people is they tend to focus primarily on their creative persona or their intellectual persona. They let these aspects rule their lives.
The truth is you are comprised of many different aspects.
There is the soul part of you. There is the emotional part of you. There is the empathetic part of you.
There are many different parts to you.
Focus on these different parts and you would realize that not all of them are idealists and not all them are perfectionists.
You can take refuge in these different parts of your persona to gain much needed perspective. This is the kind of perspective that you would need to live a much happier life.
Make it Your Mission to Learn and Appreciate Others’ Perspectives
Make it a mission to reach out to other people and get into their world.
You would be surprised as to how happy you will feel when you simply step out of your skin.
Compassion is the ultimate antidote to depression.
When you are depressed, you are essentially being selfish. Why?
You feel bad about yourself. You feel sorry for yourself. Everything is about you.
When you are compassionate, on the other hand, you step out of yourself. You feel other people’s pain. You share in their joy.
I am telling you right now that it is almost impossible to be depressed when you are a compassionate person.
Practice more compassion. Practice more empathy. Appreciate other peoples’ perspectives and live a happier life.
- Step Away from Your Ideals and Enjoy the Moment
- Learn to Accept People as They Are
- Learn to Accept the Beauty in Every Situation
- Trust Your Intuitions More
- Learn to Accept Variability in Every Situation
- Be More Flexible
- Tap Into Different Parts of your Persona
- Make it Your Mission to Learn and Appreciate Others’ Perspectives