Virgo people often operate in some sort of personal and emotional auto-pilot. They really do.
They turn on their own axis. There’s a certain internal rule they follow.
You can’t tell just by looking at them. They look like everybody else. On the surface, they look normal.
However, deep down, they have all these ideas that work to leave them feeling unfulfilled and disappointed.
You see, the Virgo is one of the most idealistic signs of the horoscope. They’re not content with living in the world as it exists. They’re not focused on the world the way it is.
Instead, they’re constantly hoping, praying, and wishing that the world would conform to their ideal. That’s right.
They’re focused on the way things should be.
The worst part of all this ‘conscious daydreaming’ is that Virgos feel bad when these impossible standards are met.
It is somehow everybody else’s fault or the world’s fault that it doesn’t fit their standards, principles, and ideals. Of course, Virgos do this on a subconscious level.
Anybody over the age of eight knows that the world has its own axis. The world turns based on its own agenda.
The world doesn’t revolve around you. It has its own thing.
Unfortunately, many Virgos can intellectually grasp this, but emotionally reject it. While they can function pretty normally in the real world, deep down in an emotional level, they’re often disappointed. They’re often frustrated.
How can they not?
If you are always constantly judging the way the world is based on principles and standards found in a world that doesn’t exist, you’d be disappointed too.
As much as Virgos try, these unrealistic expectations and perfectionism seep into their relationships. It’s not uncommon for Virgos to go from one failed relationship to the other, thanks to all these unrealistic ideals and temptations.
It is very hard for them to shake free of these unconscious biases which are undermining their relationships and happiness.
While there is a lot to recommend in Virgo idealism, taken to extremes, it can lead to serious issues.
At the very least, it can lead to a deep, profound, and long-lasting level of discontentment.
It’s not uncommon for otherwise successful Virgos to make a lot of money, live in great houses, work around amazing people, live otherwise amazing lives, and still feel incomplete and unhappy.
They really need to let go of that impossible ideal and start living in the moment. They need to stop measuring the way things are based on principles and standards found in a world that doesn’t exist.
With this said, if you are a Virgo and you want a successful relationship and love that you deserve, you should stay away from the following actions.
These actions are rooted in the mindset I thoroughly explained above.
Don’t Compare Your Current Relationship to a Past Relationship
The funny thing about Virgos is they tend to exaggerate the past.
They have a past experience, and they would always compare their current experiences with that past experience. They would look for things that are missing in the current experience and read those in to the past experience.
This is a serious problem because, nine times out of ten, the past wasn’t as awesome as you imagine it to be.
You are only comforting yourself with your idealization of the past because the present is so threatening or so unfulfilling to you. This is a very common Virgo mind game, and it is very harmful.
You have to understand that the best way to be unhappy is to constantly compare yourself to other people. Similarly, the best way to be unhappy in your relationship is to constantly compare it with a previous relationship.
By idealizing things that may not have happened in your past relationship and lording that over your current relationship, you’re not doing yourself any favors. If anything, you’re harming your current relationships.
Your current relationships should be based on reality.
It should be based on the way things are. Let go of the past. The past is the past.
It’s never going to come back. Focus on what exists now.
Don’t Get Too Caught Up in Your Ideal Relationship
Even if you were to focus on your current relationship and avoid comparing it with your previous relationships, you can still stumble. Why?
You can get so caught up in your ideas of how the right relationship should look like.
You can get so overly involved in your expectations of how your partner should act that you fail to see their beauty in the here and now. You fail to see the things that they are doing right in the here and now.
Accordingly, things can deteriorate to the point where your partner can’t seem to do anything right. Things can get so bad that you might be tempted to turn your back on your relationship because it’s not as perfect as the ideals you have in mind.
This is simply the wrong way to go. This is completely unnecessary, and it’s only going to harm your relationship.
Don’t hold up an imaginary picture of an ideal relationship to your current relationship.
Instead, compare your current relationship to itself.
Communicate clearly with your partner, and figure out your common ideals and your common goals. That’s what you should be focusing on.
Instead of imposing your own unrealistic expectations on the relationship, work on making your current relationship live up to its fullest potential.
You have to remember that all relationships are works in progress. All of us human beings are works in progress.
There is no such thing as a perfect relationship in the same way as there is no such thing as perfect people.
You have to understand this. You have to accept it and move on.
Otherwise, your relationships will continue to fall into a certain pattern. Otherwise, your relationships will continue to fail.
At the very least, you will continue to feel unfulfilled and unhappy in your relationships. You owe it to yourself to be happy. Let go of ideals that don’t do you any good.